Single mom twin babies

In the next few weeks I will become a single mom of twin girls. I’ve been dating my “partner “ for the last 2 years, as soon as we realized I was pregnant he immediately said he doesn’t want to be part of this and I said ok and walked away. Two days later he called me and said he would try, we got together and then again said he can’t do this. We’ve been together for all the pregnancy, he is taking care of me and he says he wants to make sure that I’m ok, but still he doesn’t care about the babies. I think I thought he was going to come around, but now I really think he will not be there for the babies. I have family support thanks god, my mom and 2 sisters who will help me, but anyways I’m scared and sad

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My bf was also very hot and cold when I was pregnant (also with twins, one ended up miscarrying tho) one day he was all in the next he was yelling at me for being pregnant . Once she was born and he held her he's been all for her ever since, loves her but can not be trusted to babysit because he didn't bother to pay attention on how to physically care for her. So I just have to be a SAHM and let him work. If he comes around maybe that will be your reality too. You're super lucky to have support from your family though, that will make life a zillion times easier if he doesnt stick around. I don't have that luxury! As long as you have your mom and sisters you'll be chillin!!!!

@Fay thank you

@Amirah thank you very much for sharing, I really appreciate it

I am in the same boat where the father of my child changed up on me after we planned a pregnancy. I am a thriving, single mom to a 2-month-old little girl now. I thought it would be hard doing it alone, but it’s lovely to not have the stress of a man around that doesn’t want to be there. As moms, we are hopeful that the men will come around once they see the babies, but that’s not the case. Don’t force him or try to convince him to be there. It does more harm than good. Research shows that it is more harmful to children to have a dad that is inconsistent than to have one that is consistently not there. Research also shows that the number one indicator for a child’s happiness is not the father being in the picture, but the mom’s happiness. Happy mom = happy child. My advice is move on with your babies and let it go. You will lose the dead weight and find a partner that is invested and loves the 3 of you like it should be. Sending hugs your way!

I agree also had trouble with the father of my children. I was pregnant with twins. He was very hot and cold. I found out he was cheating. He let me know that he wasn’t interested in me and I needed to get rid of them didn’t want them he would say hurtful things that I couldn’t even believe My best advice is only you know your partner. However, I didn’t expect him to change. He has a lot after we had a discussion where I broke down and cried to him in suicidal misery. He then is a lot more open with his phone password etc have to make jokes about the previous girl because we were together for two years and I had to find a to make light of it! However, it is something that bothers me You never know how the result may go based the advice a lot of people told me to cut him off, but I’m glad that we kept trying! I just had my babies today but I am a lil bit sensitive today because my babies were a bit small due to me stressing so they are in nicu &’ im trying to not to resent him