Baby Daddy Drama

Basically me n my fiance have been bickering a lot more, I want things done asap n he’s the opposite n he snaps at me sometimes n I don’t like the tone. Today he had work 10-7 he told me n then I made plans. Started prepping dinner and sorting out bits around the house. My friends coming at 5 and leaving at 6:30 so he comes home to a meal etc n not us giggly girls. Then I send him a message saying dinners all prepped be done for when u get back n he texted me saying “oh im gna be done at 9pm today” I said why didn’t you say that and he said didn’t think it mattered. But in my head I then could’ve made myself smt and not let his go cold as he doesn’t like reheating things. I get work is work. I’m not sure if it’s my hormones or if i genuinely have a right to be upset

His mom was groomed and used by his dad, his dad left her to do it all by herself, she had no choice, Idk I wasn’t there.

Idk it’s almost like my child’s father thought I’d be a single mother even if we were in a relationship together. It’s gross and disgusting in my opinion.

It’s whatever ultimately. He’s finally being honest and saying he wants me gone so yeah. I’ll just work on that. Getting gone.

I need help. I know I’m in my head and over thinking everything but I just need advice from moms who have been in this situation or similar. My soon to be ex husband and I were together for 12 years. We share a 7 year old and a now 3 week old. He met someone else and decided he wanted a divorce while I was 20 weeks pregnant with our youngest and drained all of our money from our joint account leaving me with nothing. Ever since he’s left, he’s been verbally and emotionally abusive. We’ve been to court once for custody and he’s yet to follow any of the custody agreement nor has he paid any child support. I’m scared to file in contempt because I don’t know what that means for consequences. Our eldest is very attached to his father but hasn’t seen him in months due to his father bailing on his appointed days. What should I do. Ever since having our youngest, I’m very strained financially. But at the same time, I don’t know how my ex will react and retaliate. What should I do? And yes. My ex is known for retaliating.

Ive finally come to the realization thats im married to a narcissist who uses gaslight and guilt tactics on me often, I feel so stupid because his ex warned me about all of this years ago but of course he painted her as this crazy ex who just wanted to get to him..but obviously she had some valid points. So frustrating he has a cycle of love bombing to belittling me my ideas and my parenting, apologize, love bomb again over and over again. Im trying to set up my exit plan but its so hard when everything is so insanely expensive. I dont want to put myself in a position that will screw me or that can jeopardize my ability to get custody. Its the only thing I fear I could care about the other stuff. I dont deserve to be treated poorly and my son should not grow up thinking that this is how you treat ppl.

How would this work if bd is already in police custody for dumb reasons he put his self in but court is coming up for child custody cause I wanna charge my child last name but he agreed to it that I can but he’s in jail and may not be coming out any time soon