Middle name disagreement

James is a nice middle name

I don’t think the middle name is a massive deal so would give him this one, especially if he doesn’t actually want his first name as the middle name! Plus is seems like a family tradition which is cute!

Ahhh how frustrating! If he's telling everyone, he definitely knows you're going to budge - are you usually a pushover with things? It seems like he's taking advantage.. This is just me being petty, but if he's not married or engaged to you, as you said bf, I'd be saying baby's lucky to have his last name and middle name is pushing it 🤣

My son has my partners surname so I wanted to have something from my family and wanted his middle name to be my dads name and my partner agreed it was fair as he already had his family name. Won’t he come to some agreement at all that is very fustrating x

My son has 2 middle names as one his dad wanted him to have and one that I wanted.

This was me and my partner for baby's FIRST name! FIRST name!!😂 It can be very frustrating! But, let me just be petty a bit and tell you what I did 😂 Just because I have finally found a place to lift this off my chest! 🫣 I don't recommend it though. So, He insisted on a name I don't like, my family, his family, we all don't like. But he kept insisting and was telling everyone. Even went ahead to be filling it in some (nonofficial) forms. I realised he wasn't budging, and he was low-key feeling I would accept. Multiple times, I asked him let's resolve, he ignored. Luckily, I was the one who booked appointment for name registration, passport, GP, Infact, all the official registrations 😂 On the day, I asked him one last time for us to resolve, he ignored. I went ahead and put HIS FIRST name as BABY'S FIRST name! 😂🫣🏃‍♀️ he managed to go back to the birth certificate and baptism card to attach the one he wanted, which I didn't argue because mine is in front and very official, and I like the name 😂🫣🫣

Not sure if you’re planning on having more kids, but we basically agreed to each choose a middle name for our kids. Our first son got his dad’s family middle name (same as your son - the middle name of his dad and grandpa) and our second son got my (deceased) dad’s first name as his middle name which I chose. That way we both have a special attachment to one of the middle names. For me a middle name is a nod to family which I really like.

My sons middle name is after my grandad. My husband agreed that this name was perfect for him as my grandad meant the world to me and I was his carer for the last few months of his life so he spent a lot of time with my son. They were the best of friends. I'm currently pregnant with my second, if it's another boy, he will have my dad's name as his middle name and if it's a girl, she will have my sisters name as her middle name. Both children have my husbands surname to take from his family so he wants my family in there too so middle names it is. My niece also has the same middle name as me 🥰

I understand why you would feel frustrated cause anytime my family or my husbands family get “bright ideas” about how we should go about caring, naming, or anything to do with our boys I get real defensive. It feels like they’re trying to take any control away from YOUR family. Honestly I wouldn’t “give in” cause you’re gonna build resentment that way. I would sit down and explain all your feelings about it. You may decide it’s not that bad you just want to be able to make that decision together, or you may realize you truly don’t want that name for your son but that’s something you guys need to talk through and actually listen to eachother

@Sam oh finally someone who gets it!! For me, I would prefer our son to have his father’s name (my bf) I don’t have the best relationship with his side of the family either so I feel defensive in that aspect as well. But in addition to my bf & his brother BOTH having their fathers name as a middle name I feel like it’s overkill on the James & I’m here to break the generational James & start OUR family