any advice?

daughter is 4 weeks old now and I’m losing my mind because my boyfriend and I cannot agree on a name. I strongly dislike the names he is leaning to and he mine. We agreed to a name when she was 2 weeks old but then just the other day he decided he doesn’t want it and that it doesn’t sound nice. It’s a name that I really feel was her when she was in my belly and I honestly can’t move past it. But I’ve been searching and searching for a name we both would love but he just says no to all of my suggestions. He’s not been looking at all and it’s really hurting my feelings having an unnamed baby, I feel like I’m betraying her in a way. Any advice to move forward? It’s really affecting me and I feel super alone and unheard. We are both really stubborn. He wants super common names and I don’t want to make my daughter a common name.

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Pick one name each and then flip a coin for order? That must be so tough, I'm sorry.

Just do whatever you want and put it on the birth certificate and say it’s done. My partner had no say in mine and won’t the next either haha. Put your foot down and say she is getting your last night so this is her first namerrr

That sounds so similar to what we experienced with both kids (only difference being that I was quite relaxed about it and my partner was getting really frustrated). We never liked each other's name suggestions. I wanted the more exotic names, so I put a lot of time into searching for more names and making more suggestions, with not much luck. In the end we agreed on a name that's fairly common but with a twist to it (slightly different spelling + pronunciation). I'm not saying that's what you should do, but I personally do believe that it's a very important choice for both of you to make and it would be ideal if you could agree on something that you're both at least to some degree happy with. Maybe you could make a list: You add 10 names you like and he also adds 10 names (he needs to do his part!!). Then you individually rate/give points to all the names on the list; e.g. 0:never, 1:ok, 2:like, 3:love. Possibly you'll have a name or two where there is overlap or stands out with the most points. Good luck!

I actually think maybe getting some counselling to help you both reach a decision might be the best approach. Yes it may sound dramatic but you're clearly in a stalemate unable to reach a resolution that you are both happy with. I think the real issue at play is not the obvious one. It's just a symptom of underlying things that need to be resolved eg how to communicate with meaningful intentions, truly listen to each other, agree on a set of common criteria for naming baby, how to parent etc. Picking a name for a child is a huge decision and I think one where both parents must feel comfortable with/happy with so there is no resentment.

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