Should I leave?

Can't seem to do anything right in my relationship... Last night I asked if he'd like the TV because I was home all day and bored of it and he snapped at me 'I don't know' like I asked him the worst question ever.. The other day I asked him to pass me the dog on his lead outside of the house because I was going on a walk with the baby and the dog and we have a narrow hallway. He snapped at me and threw it on he floor. I asked him to pass m coat over as he was right next to it and he threw it on the floor.. I asked him not to throw my stuff on the floor and he huffed at me and went into a mood. I literally stopped asking for help, I don't ask questions about anything anymore.. We basically just don't speak in the house. I often do everything alone like put the dogs go bed, carry everything upstairs and do all the baby stuff like feeds, bathing, nighttime etc. I just feel like he looses his temper with me really quickly and I can't seem to do anything right. I've not really spoke much with him for a few days now, it's very awkward in he house. Should I leave.. Or try and make I work? I really don't want him to have the baby without me.. He let's her cry :( and I hate it..

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Leave mamas!!!!!! Maybe even get a restraining order. I went through this with my first baby daddy and within months after this started he started hitting me

He’s extremely disrespectful and has his own miserable issues or he’s cheating or something because someone who loves anyone would NOT treat them that way , I’d say leave him in the dirt because absolutely not

It's difficult because I really don't want to be without my girl, she's only 4 months and she's literally with me 24/7.. I do work on a Sunday, last week I called in sick because my back hurts. I work in a dog rescue and there's a lot of heavy lifting. When I told him my back wad hurting he didn't believe me... Thought I was making it up even though I go to physio! I've heard him get annoyed with the baby for crying and I'm worried he'll let her 'cry it out'.. He really loves her but always passes her to me when she cries so what I'm not there :(!

Also my friends were his friends first and they would probably take his side.. So id end up a single mum with no friends 😣..

Rather be a single mum with no friends than to compromise on my self-esteem and accept all kinds of undeserved BS

Yeah I get that, same tbh.. Its like everyday I'm watching what I'm saying just incase he snaps at me again

If the situation allows for it, maybe try and find out the root cause of his issues.. have a sit down and talk with him and let him know where you're at and what you'd like to change? This isn't something that I think is best to put up with long term, but if nothing changes after trying then at least you'll know that you've done all you can. Watching what you say for fear of how he's going to react isn't conducive and will only get worse, and will have a direct effect on your baby girl too!

I'll try and sit and talk with him. I've tried it before and he goes all 'silent treatment' On me and won't talk about anything. I'm literally hiding my tears now because he's gaming and he shouted fuck off at the tv, it woke the baby up and I just said his name and he threw his hands in the air and looks pissed off at me..

Yeah ok, he's pathetic. Try, but not if it means he's likely to lash out on you physically because it feels like that's the next step. Do you have any family, somewhere you can run to and be safe?

Yeah I’m not going to lie I don’t like the sound of this the way he’s acting is making me very uncomfortable for you I agree with leaving or trying to talk it out how your being treated isn’t love he doesn’t respect you and he can’t even respect your little girl is sleeping and keep his voice down do you have anywhere to go if a chat doesn’t go well??

This is emotional abuse definitely leave and go ahead and file a report about it that would probably change how his visitation goes and he’ll have to have supervised visits with the baby

Secretly document how he's been acting in a notebook/diary. Especially when it relates to the baby. Every time he refuses to care for baby or shows anger towards you. Think back weeks before and act like you've been logging it for longer than you have. Write in the notebook how his angry outburst frighten the baby and you and how you don't feel safe leaving her w him. When you leave (which you prob should as this is wrong and this man has issues. Emotionally abusive and borderline scary vibes going on.) Then having that documented may help your case in court. The younger the bb the more time mom has and less for dad supposedly but this way you can say he's a danger to baby and hasn't cared for her anyways so you can request supervised visitation and him to take anger management classes. That will upset him lol but good because if he won't do classes he won't have baby time

I've wrote a letter with everything in it and ill give it to him soon... I'm a bit worried about it

Keep us updated we are here for you xx

Just to top it all off I've been stood up by my only friend that's not also his friend 😅 currently sitting alone in a coffee shop

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