Makes me sad

It actually disheartens me that so many of us experience dads who aren’t present with our pregnancies and babies / in and out of a relationship. Everyone has their own problems but it doesn’t excuse half of men’s behaviour that I read in this group. What’s even more sad half of it is from men who are actively in a relationship. Everyone wants the nuclear family but unfortunately sometimes things don’t work - but it’s becoming more and more and more common. What is going wrong?!?!?

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Honestly, I think the women are letting the men get away with this. And by the women I mean the other women. The men seek out other women, the other women know the man is in a relationship/married with kids and they STILL get with the man. The men wouldn’t get away with it if the other women didn’t let them. I know sometimes the men lie and say they are single but the other women always eventually find out. It’s up to the women to end this imo

I agree with Amanda, women are part of the problem! We let this happen by setting our bars so stupidly low! I did with my ex, but not now with my fiance, he's doing his fair share!

I’m saying this lightly but it’s in our nature. As much as it’s so hard for us to be single mums, we have to do it, we don’t have a choice. Unlike the sperm donors they have choices :) xx

@Amanda I completely agree on this too! My daughters dad actively had a work affair - but apparently I wasn’t a secret.. I don’t know what’s worse!! @Rebecca this too! We let a lot slide, things that deep down we know we shouldn’t! X @Jelena and as women we know we will always be okay with just our babies!! We’re a stupidly strong species and then men moan that we aren’t feminine enough, yet they can never play the masculine part! X

I just made a post earlier abt the how to describe motherhood to childless women & my biggest advice is “who you pick to be ur kids will probably be the most important decision u make in life! Please don’t take this decision lightly” I find it so disappointing that women are not picking these men more carefully. Like please let’s stop opening our legs to men who don’t deserve sex from us; let alone a child. I say this respectfully. As a gender I want us to do better! Everyday there are so many woman crying over an ain’t shit man who doesn’t deserve her tears! And yes, there are instances were men will “deceive” women & essentially trap them bt a lot of times these men are literally SHOWING & TELLING u who they are & some women jus stil don’t want to believe it. Also its 2025, men are no longer a mystery. If u want to know how u would be treated, u can just pay attention to how ur man treated his exes. There usually is evidence bt women still choose to ignore another womans trash! 🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️

So yesterday my father was telling me to go back out with my baby daddy and painted me as the evil one even though he knows everything my baby daddy had done to me. I told him no i’ll never go out with him again. He goes “you’ll never get married”. I got so mad and i told him “i will get married to someone that’ll treat me right because there are good guys out there.” We got into a huge argument which led me to tell him that he and my babydaddy are alike and that i dont want to be miserable being married to someone like them. Today, my mom found a video of him and some random woman DANCING and being all over each other at a “work party” that happened a week ago. My mom just kicked him out the house and doesnt want anything to do with him now.