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Are you in the UK? Not sure how it works in the states but no you won’t be able to. I had to have my Mum with me whilst my husband stayed with our oldest. She wasn’t allowed in until baby and me had had all our checks and I’d pushed out the placenta. When you’re in labour baby wouldn’t come that quick so maybe you could have family members on standby to be ready to come asap once you know it’s time.
Not really. My parents are 3hrs away so we have a local friend on standby and they will leave immediately when they get the call to take over. My toddler will be scared and it’s not the environment for him to he in when I’m in labour!
I had a really fast delivery with my first one which makes me think I might have a fast delivery with this one but of course I won’t know until it happens. Waters broke around midnight and the contractions hit like 20 mins prior to my water breaking so I didn’t have much of that long labor first time moms have. I had him by 2am, we went to the hospital right away with him since I was only 34 weeks when he was born. I progressed super fast with him was 6cm when I got to the hospital and like 30 mins later they’re prepping for me to deliver. I guess I’m just anxious with this next one I don’t know if I’ll deliver early or go full term and how fast I will progress 😭 but I’m hoping that a family member should be able to make it here by when it’s time to go.
I'm in the UK I Had no choice as I'd moved areas amd no friends or family local etc and we had our 2yr old in the room with us
Sorry I also gave birth at 6am and contractions came very fast!!! We just about made it into a hospital room, thankfully our son was asleep so he didn't see anything, noone told us he wasn't allowed in the room etc- Again I think every hospital have different rules etc but if you just explain situation I'm sure there's ways around it x
My sister in law was in this situation and she literally got in touch with all the family within driving distance and made a full rota of who was available to call on and when in her last month of pregnancy. She had a fast labour with her first too so was worried it would happen again. Just took the stress out for her on who she could call and everyone that could come and stay during their “on call” time did. Maybe worth a try ☺️
Can family stay with you around your due date? My mother in law stayed with us in the week up to my due date so she could stay at home with our eldest My second ended up being late and MIL was with us for ages
@Aimee i did think about this but since delivery dates are estimates it’s really hard to say if that would work out or not and shed have to of course miss work for x amount of time so not sure if that’d work in my situation, in the instance that I were to deliver early again, with my last pregnancy my due date was in May and I had him in March. But i think im just going to have family on standby too and call and see who can make it over the fastest and hope for the best outcome. ❤️ I love to know and plan ahead of time so I think with pregnancies it makes me feel anxious and out of control because it’s so unpredictable so I’m having a bit of a hard time but I’m sure all will work out in the end. Thanks everyone for your insight!
Where are you located. In the states you are not
I’d just stay at home and tell your family immediately for them to come get your child. And just labor at home for that time
I think if you had no other option then you can call and ask and see what they say. You could probably bring your child and have your family meet you just incase you do give birth super fast again. They can’t really turn you away if your child is there. You could let them know your family is coming
when i had my first kid 9 years ago my family was in the room while i labored and my water broke unexpectedly and o had my daughter with 3 kids in the room its just happened so fast so o think its situational
No
If you know what hospital you will be delivering at, call them!! Each one has different policies and sometimes they can make exceptions for situations as well (especially if told in advance) or maybe they could have someone available to watch them for you (like a nurse or something) 💜
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I would discuss it with your midwife first of all, they'll know what the rules are and can maybe suggest a solution. Not sure if it would work for your circumstances but a few possibilities could be - plan a home birth - hire a doula to be with you in labour so your partner can stay with oldest child - see if you can find a local babysitter or something who would agree to be on call, maybe one of the staff from nursery (if LO attends obviously) or childminder - partner could drop you off at hospital and take oldest back home, I know that sounds like you'd be alone but there will obviously be plenty of midwives around
Not really. We had a similar situation and I asked my mum to drive up when I started to feel contractions kicking off. You usually labour at home for hours anyway so as long as they can drop everything and come you should be alright. Saying that I was still 10cm dilated when I got to the hospital 😆