Birth Day/Birthday - Something wrong with me or is this feeling normal?

This is bizarre to me, sorry!

This is odd to me. I’ll never understand that. I was sad for all my babies birthdays because they were a year old not because I expected people to say “good job!” To me lol But I’m so greatful my babies have made it their first year in life. There are so who did not. I was never selfish like this But it also sounds like maybe your partner has not acknowledged you much for everything you do? Maybe that’s it

Did you take time to reminisce with your partner and look at the pictures to think about how it all happened? Take a little walk down memory lane and see if it makes you feel better.

While I didn’t expect anyone to say anything to me, I do make it a point to say congratulations to my mom friends that have made it through their first year of motherhood. It felt like a massive milestone for me, so I feel like it should be treated like one for all birthing people.

Totally understandable! I relive my child birth on every birthday…. But you get the recognition at birth and that’s it’s!!! From then on, it’s your memories, but the child’s day… but 1st birthdays are definitely a celebration for the parents and how far you’ve come

My baby is only 6mos old so I can’t relate yet… But this reminds me of The Perks of Being a Wallflower (the book). The main character would give his mom a gift for his birthday every year and I always thought that was SO sweet ❤️ But you did it! You made it mama! Everyone is different. I know I would really appreciate it if someone did something nice for me on my baby’s first birthday.

I've never thought about my kids birthday being the day I get recognition for being his mum? It's his day. All the attention should be on him.

i had a teacher in highschool that said she always bought her mom flowers on her birthday, because it’s a special day for both of them! i don’t think it’s fair to expect other people to acknowledge that it is important to the mother too. i think acknowledging the significance even to yourself is enough, especially because it’s so personal. i remember on my daughters first my partner and i kinda celebrated the one year anniversary of us being parents and all the things we’ve gone through. sorry if that was a bit of a ramble but the point is i get what you’re saying / feeling

To me it’s not crazy! My first is 2 now and my husband still each birthday said happy becoming a mom day may not be loud crazy or gifts but he makes me feel special the past 2 years. I’ve always made it a point to pull out ultrasound pics and pics of the hospital stay and talk about what happened. I just had my 2nd a few days ago and we will have plenty of memories to look back on too

I wasn’t expecting it, but i did receive alot of congratulations from friends and family and even a gift. My sons father didn’t give me anything for mother’s day and I was pretty disappointed too so I completely understand were you coming from❤️. Happy birthday to your little one and congratulations to you for doing a pretty good job too as a first time mum it was definitely a very challenging first 12 months❤️

@Emily I think she’s meaning they were literally born today

I always get myself a cake too on my children’s birthdays to celebrate surviving childbirth lol

Thank you for all the feedback! Logically, I’d never dream about receiving anything on someone else’s birthday which is why I posted as these feelings obviously contradict that. After further digesting - It does seem they stem from unresolved issues with my birth experience and partner. A few congratulatory messages from family were received to which warmed my heart but also further solidified I was just seeking recognition from my partner. 😓 The birth day should be about the LO as it was their day of birth (i was not trying to say it shouldn’t) and that IS how we spent it - prioritizing and celebrating HIS BIG DAY. We’re so extremely grateful to have such a healthy, happy, and growing LO 💕 I also agree with the sentiment that it IS a milestone for the parent(s) that should be celebrated .. like on Mother’s / Father’s Day or whenever you’d like to as long as it doesn’t take away from the LO that made you into a parent ☺️

My husband’s family has a tradition where the child gives their mother a small gift on their birthday 😊 I love it. If they’re too little, my husband does it for them (usually just flowers or a Trader Joe’s treat). No one else acknowledges mamas really, which is fine, but it’s very appropriate and sweet for my husband and child to do so ❤️

But that's why mothers day exists. To show love and gratitude and appreciation to the mother. Your little one doesn't get another day in the year that's all about them. Mothers have their own birthday and mothers day.