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kind of. my sister had pretty much no reaction to either of my pregnancies, didn't ask me anything about either of them. she cut me out in my second pregnancy only to show up when i was in labour (she came with my mum who was there to look after our first while we went into hospital) and didn't say a word to me, not even good luck. it does hurt when people don't show the excitement you hoped they would. hope you're okay xx
Yes it hurts like crazy but do your self a favour and protect your peace by not engaging in that type of competition! Before i was pregnant my sister would tell me how excited she was for me to have a baby, we been trying for 4 years and nothing, her wedding was happening july 24 abroad and when i found out late November 23, that i was pregnant, i shared it with my sister, all she wanted to know was my due date anyway after she calculated that i would not be able to come to the wedding she excluded me from everything every time i went to my parents, my stay ended in tears and just sadness, fast forward to her wedding day comes and she calls me saying that if i had really loved her i would have made it to the wedding somehow, i gave birth the next day and she called me selfish 😂😂 for taking the lime light away from her, 8 months on and she has seen my son 2 times when i have taken him to my parents. Why i say protect ur peace, is because now when i take my son to my parents house
all he does is scream the place down, we leave and his fine, anywhere we go hes fine, until someone pointed out maybe he does that because he feels the negativity that surrounded that place while i was pregnant
@Elizabeth I’m sorry that’s how she reacted, especially a best friend for that long should be able to celebrate both of your exciting times…
@keisha thank you, I’m just trying to build my support system in other places, (I.e. here with all you amazing ladies 💖) it’s just kind of the last thing I expected to be dealing with on top of a first pregnancy
@Aart I’m so sorry that happened to you! Especially your sister should be excited the family is growing too. I’m starting to see what you mean about protecting your peace. I’m due like ~2 weeks after the wedding I mentioned and the other day the bride asked if I’ll be “dragging my husband away too” after I said I’ll probably want to leave right after the reception (it’s late august which is like 80+ degrees here, and I’ll be ~38weeks pregnant). I was shocked… like yeah considering I could go into labor any time after like wk36-37, I’d kind of like my husband there to drive me to the hospital???
@Aart I wouldn’t be surprised if he does. Probably picks up on the change in how you feel being there too
@Emily I hope in your case the bride behaves and tries to understand what a exciting and sensitive time this pregnancy is for you and does not continue to be insensitive, what did she expect you husband to leave his heavily pregnant wife and stay for the rest of the ceremony.
@Aart I guess? I mean we planned on staying for the ceremony and reception just not the “after party”. Bc I’ll probably be exhausted and ready to crash by that point. Especially since I’ll be in the wedding
I have a bunch of friend from high school oy college. But I discover few of them where in competition with me. More than truly love me.. One time I have been heartbroken by an ex and no one care about taking news for 2 years alone. After that I decide with them that all my pain and even happyness has to be protected from disappointment. I don't tell them but I was struggling with this idea that they have to be aware... Then I decide not to. I'm 8 month and only tell to few friends and close family The best decision I think. Thanks you guys to share your experience. I feel less alone.
@Camille sorry you had to go through that :( it makes me sad some women can celebrate each other’s success without seeing it as competition
@Emily thanks Emily 😊
Not family, but my best friend since 4th grade. Started when I announced I was getting married and suddenly she was engaged. Didn’t think much of it, I just thought it was a funny coincidence. Then when I announced my pregnancy she started trying to overshadow it and when she couldn’t she cut ties. So somewhat similar but not exactly. So I kind of understand how you feel.