Second baby - not as much support?
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I could of wrote this! I have a 3yo and I’m absolutely exhausted and get little to no support. I feel like I’m shouting about how much more tired I am this time around and no one cares to help. My MIL hasn’t bought anything for the baby and the weekend of my planned section is having the cousins so my SIL can go get drunk at a wedding! Thankfully my mum can step in or else I don’t know what I would do. I basically was told to sort something else out
@Paulina so annoying! If anything I think you need more help second time round but people just seem to be really uninterested?!
@Emily same, it's so exhausting doing it with a toddler! And there's so much more to think about, logistics-wise. My MIL hasn't got anything for the baby either, she never really asks about it either and when she does it's just completely clueless stuff like "so are you going to get a bigger house?" 😂🙈
I totally get that you're feeling sad about it. Being pregnant again is really special for you. But it's also kind of understandable that others may not feel the same excitement. The first child often brings a unique level of enthusiasm, and everything was new for you and those around you. People were excited to support you then. But this time, it’s different. Others might assume you're more prepared now, since you’ve been through it before, and they might not see the same need to offer help like they did last time. I’d talk to my husband about it, though, because I’d need his support.
I hear you! My little one is 2 in June and the support I felt when I was pregnant was unreal, people checked in, wanted to catch up, wanted to know what we needed for baby. I’m now 35 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 and it’s been the complete opposite - This pregnancy has been so much harder with having a toddler running around but I think people just assume you’ve done it once you can do it again🤷🏼♀️ It’s not nice though, can feel very lonely at times x
@Meis yes that makes sense of course - this isn't really about it not feeling special though. Being pregnant while parenting a toddler is a completely different ball game and you need a different kind of support, it's just a shame that people seem to assume that you need less help second time around when in reality the opposite is probably true!
@Chantelle Louise yeah I think lonely is the word - sorry you're feeling this too! It's hard but hopefully will all be worth it xx
That's true! Talk to people you trust and tell them how you feel. I'm sure there will be people who will support you if you ask for help.
You know they’ll make a big fuss on Facebook about it though right 🙄
Tell me about it! My in-laws decided to go on holidays abroad a couple of days after my due date and they were supposed to look after our toddler when I go into labour (my first was nearly 2 weeks late)🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️