Don’t know if I did the right thing

So my husband has decided that he wants to stay up north to study at university and work. We don’t have any family up there. I recently gave birth and my baby is two months old. I have found it difficult to manage on my own and husband isn’t really that good at taking care of children even though he’s trying he’s more focused on what he wants to do rather than me and the baby so I decided to stay with my family. My husband has decided to rent on his own now as I don’t really want feel comfortable renting with him after how I felt so unsupported during my pregnancy and also after giving birth. I went behind his back and I found a property that’s not that far away from my parents. But still far enough for me to have to travel almost an hour and a half. I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing, but I just feel like I want to be close to my family especially during the early years of My Son‘s life and my partner doesn’t understand that and just caring about what he wants to do. Please can someone tell me if I did the right thing by finding my own home for me and My Son. My family live in London and rent is expensive there but I found something much closer than the 5 hours my husband has decided to stay in Tyne and Wear.

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While i get your husband wanting to stay in education. You didn't do the wrong thing. You've put your son first and that's what you should be doing as a parent. My partner is also in university and it's been a struggle to convince him to stick at it, as he thinks it will be better if he got a full time job but he's only got a year left. We're also close to family so even if he wasn't in uni we'd still live where we are

From both sides I think you’re both doing what’s best for yourselves. He may be focusing on school to make a better life for yourselves little family but at the same time he’s being selfish leaving you unsupported. Being closer to your family will give you the support you need as well as help when you need it and that’s the best for you. You should both be getting what you need and as long as you still love and continue to be there for each other you should be fine! Be supportive of him as you would want for you and if he’s still not supportive then thank god you’re on you’re own anyway. I wish you luck on this journey congrats on your baby 🫶🏻🥹

Follow your intuition But also it’s worth talking to your husband Have a heart to heart about this No need to do things behind each others back Come up with a plan together that works for both of you He also may need a talking to from someone else because he needs to step it up it sounds like! Sometimes men only get it when they hear it from other men