I’d say it’s due to so many possible mistakes being made in recent times and where they haven’t listened to mums resulting in possible legal cases. I know one consultant i seen completed disregarded me wanting a planned section and ended up and emergency section anyway with another consultant and picked up sepsis during labour in the process. They was at the end of Covid restrictions and I got my notes home until I was discharged from midwife at home. My sister was a nurse and had an interesting read of them
That's really strange and honestly none of her business. I got a birth debrief, asked my health visitor and she just referred me no questions asked. I think I'd tell her you'd just want to discuss the details and get the full story and leave it at that