Feeling so overwhelmed!

Gets so much better 💕

How are you feeding baby? (In regards to the gas) 🤍 Have you got any family around to sit with bubba so you can have a nap? Really hope you’re ok. Try to get to the bottom of the colic/ fussiness so you can rest better at night. At the moment I’ve been reading into latches (bottle feeding). Apparently mam tests are the worst for latching which I had no idea. I thought they were supposed to be great so I went and bought loads 🤣 literally today were trying lansinoh teats as they fit into mam bottles and I’ve noticed a big difference, my bubba is quickly sicky and it seems to have helped. I’ve been reading to try the lansinoh teats or that dr brown narrow are great for latching. ^ sorry if you’re breastfeeding as that won’t be helpful haha. But if you are, then get baby checked for lip and tongue tie. Ask the HV for a referral. Infacol may not be helping if it’s acid reflux because it’s citrusy so can aggravate it further. X

Also, my house and probably 99% of people on here is messy too. You can’t do it all. Xxxxx

If your formula feeding try some different bottles. I was using tommee tippee and I was told that you can rarely get a good latch with them so baby will of been taking in too much air. Since I swapped to boots own brand bottles and used Dentinox instead of infacol I've seen huge improvements. I'm also 3 weeks PP after an emergency c section and I'm still finding recovery tough with an infected scar and my house is an actual tip so i can definitely relate 😅 what I learnt from my first is everything is temporary and things do get better so hang on in there, you're doing great! 🩷 xx

My lb has been the exact same av not slept past 2 nights , his dad doesn’t work on weekends so he had him last night n he’s the exact same too he’s on infacol too best thing I could of used with my little girl but oh boy this little one is completely different compare to my little girl 😩😩 it’s so hard that I also have a one year old little girl so wen I don’t get sleep I have to keep her entertained while having no energy it’s stressful

I can completely relate to what you just said. But I truly believe it’ll all get better with time. I had an emergency C-section, and now at 3.1 weeks postpartum, I still find myself bawling every time my baby cries.
My partner, who’s a doctor, always reminds me:
“This is what babies do. Let them cry, let them puke. Don’t panic over every little hiccup, cough, or spit-up.”
He says it’s just their way of adjusting to this brand new world we’ve brought them into. Imagine being safe and snug in the womb for nine months and then suddenly being introduced to this overwhelming environment. We can’t expect them to settle in just a few days or weeks. But I know in my heart, it will get better. You’re doing amazing, and I hope you remind yourself of that.
Let’s not let the mom guilt take over. We’ve got this.

It really does get better, I promise! This is all completely normal at this stage, even though it’s really hard to deal with. I’ve had two gassy babies and know how exhausting it can be when you just want to set them down and they’re screaming with discomfort. Infacol didn’t work for my first so we moved to gripe water and that helped her get her wind out so we’ve just started using it with my second (can be used from 1 month old). Are you pace feeding as that can help reduce the gas as it doesn’t overload baby with milk? For the night feeds, I’d suggest feeding, winding, keeping baby upright for around 20 mins or so and then popping them down into a tight swaddle. We use the Love to Dream swaddle bags (and have for both babies). They’re really tight around their stomach so kind of encourage the wind out too which helps! As hard as it can be, try not to worry about the house being a mess. I struggle with this so completely get it. Do you have anyone who can come and help you?

After my first section (emergency), we had family members pop round and bring food and clean for us, particularly when my husband was back at work. Or even if somebody can come over and watch the baby while you get a few hours sleep, my MIL did this a couple of times with my first and it really helped! You absolutely aren’t doing everything wrong, you’re 3 weeks post emergency surgery and looking after a newborn, cut yourself some slack 🫶🏻