Hormonal or are my feelings valid

I am a working mom, EBF. My baby is 9 months. I’m at a work conference and I brought my husband and baby along. During the conference, I attend sessions, network, come upstairs to nurse (hotel and conference at the same location), and nurse at night. My husband is watching the baby until I finish at around 5 pm (for 2 days). Today, I wanted dessert at 9 pm and I asked if he could get some from the restaurant downstairs. Our phone doesn’t work for room service. He seemed reluctant, saying he gotta put his contacts on and clothes. I felt like an inconvenience and so I got up and got myself dessert. I feel so sad and felt like I have been doing so much that dessert from my husband is not a big ask. I have really bad thoughts about my marriage and all the weight of the world. I encouraged my husband to come on the work trip so this was on me. But I am so tired. I feel alone and stuck in this marriage. My husband is loving in his own way but he’s not one to solve my problems or pamper me. This has been weighing on me that this is for life. Am I hormonal or is it valid of me to feel this way?

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It can be both. Have you talked to him? Like really had a deep conversation about how you feel? I’ve been married for 21 years and I felt like this after we had our first (twins). I was a sahm but dealt with everything and lost myself. He was loving but not in the way I wanted/expected. Things between us got rough for a while and we had to learn how to really communicate. We probably should have gone to counseling but didn’t feel we had the time or money. If it had not turned around when it did I would have figured out a way to go to counseling though. What I’ve learned over the years is my expectations are not fair to put on him unless I completely communicate them and we agree (same for his expectations) and that he’s not a mind reader. I’ve also learned that having little kids makes marriage way different than having no kids and older kids. We had a surprise baby and started all over- it’s been an adjustment again but we’re handling it better than last time. My advice is talk to him

I think it would be worth talking about. Weather hormones or feelings their both valid. I think he would appreciate the transparency that way he can love you better.