Feeling deflated

Have they not booked you in for an induction yet. My midwife booked me in yesterday when I was 40+6 😭 for this Sunday when I will be 41+1. I got checked and my cervix was high and posterior so she couldn’t even do the sweep. I feel shit and mindset is I will probably end up with another section. My first was an elective and a nice experience and im worried an emergency is gonna traumatic for me and worse recovery. 😭😭x

@Sara if it's any consolation I had a sweep on Monday and my cervix was unreachable. I went to Triage on Thursday for reduced movement and they offered to do one then which is when they said I was 4cm and could feel baby's head and waters. They also tried pushing induction which I refused. I have a Cs booked for Tuesday (41+2) but have decided I want to push this back by a couple more days. I can only go to Thursday latest as bd has a really important exam on the Friday (bad timing) x

I wanted to push the induction back but the doctor came and said as baby is growing my section skin is stretching and there’s more chance of uterine rupture. I feel at loss. Don’t know whether to book an elective in or to go with the induction tomorrow. What was your first birth like? My first was an elective section and this time I wanted a VBAC.

@Sara as I said under your post, the risk isn't your skin rupturing but your uterus - it's two separate scars. And the risk of uterine rupture is connected with contractions, not the size of your bump, and therefore much higher with induction (still very low but 2-3 times higher) because when induced your contractions tend to be much stronger. It's appalling that the docs would skate over the fact that inductions increase that risk but are happy to scare you with non-existent or negligible risks...

@Sara I’m not sure why you’ve been told that about the skin stretching and that there’s more chance of a rupture, I had a c-section with my first and haven’t been told this with my second. My consultant wasn’t that bothered about the fact that I told her I will only book an elective in borderline 42 weeks, an induction increases the chance of a rupture but going overdue doesn’t

I feel like I’m being pressured to what they’re saying and I don’t know what to do. They’ve already scared me with the whole placenta stops working properly etc. Shall I decline the induction? Do I book in for an elective 😭 I can’t think straight

After the failed sweep - I’m also cramping like crazy and mucus plug is coming out like no tomorrow whilst I’m walking.

@Sara I feel you! I thought I had a decent plan but the obstetrician shook my confidence so badly I couldn't think straight and called my midwife to ask for a sweep next week (I don't think I'll go for it though). But I also demanded a scan at 41 weeks to assess whether my placenta is still working well - I recommend you do the same. If induction isn't what you want, decline it and ask them very firmly to come up with a plan for monitoring to ensure both you and baby are fine. Equally, if at any point you feel you want to go for an induction or section that's a perfectly ok choice as well - as long as it's yours, not someone elses!

@Paulina it feels so hard honestly. (I’ve decided this is my last baby 🤣) I’m more terrified for the balloon induction. I wanted my vbac but by spontaneous labour. I’m so worried and anxious. Im extra emotional about leaving my son home too. 😫😭😭. The midwife failed at the sweep but sticky mucus plug is coming out like no tomorrow and I can’t even explain this horrible cramping pain. I’m unable to walk 😭😭

I'd recommend everyone look at Kemi BirthJoy Johnsons posts on instagram, amazing ex midwife and now birth keeper. Lots of info around VBACS x

@Sara just because she couldn't reach your cervix doesn't mean it failed, she could have jiggled things around a bit. I would say if you're feeling like this now then definitely push back on having an induction tomorrow. I was pressured into having one with my first and really regretted it, to the point that it caused me a lot of emotional distress following the birth. Hence why I've decided against it this time, I'd rather just go straight to elective but I'm going to give myself until 41+4!

@Sara sounds like it might happen soon then! 🤞🤞🤞 And I so hear you! Last baby for me too, not going through all of this bs ever again, lol! And I'm also worried about leaving my toddler... to add insult to injury, my in-laws are off on holiday on Monday ("we thought you'd have the baby by now" 🤦🏻‍♀️) and my SIL, who kindly agreed to look after my little one when the time comes, lives about 20 minutes drive away and I'm the only driver in the house so the logistics are going to be pure hell 😬😬😬

@Ruby that is exactly what I wanted before all this mucus plug came out. Because the first thing in the morning I had already had a bit of mucus show with tinge of blood so I thought yes great! This is the start of something (this happened without any attempted sweeps or anything!) I spoke to the midwife and originally wanted to give my self the cut off for mid next week. I was thinking Tuesday/Wednesday latest for either induction or another elective. I’m 41 weeks exactly today. Found it stupid to be progressing in labour and then have to go and start the induction tomorrow. In my head I’ve got it as if I’m progressing naturally surely there are more chances of a VBAC rather than induction. It’s when they start off with the whole risks etc and put you under pressure - Correct me if I’m wrong 😭xx

@Paulina oh no! I feel for you. Childcare is the last thing you want to be worrying about whilst in hospital. I’m sick of the messages - baby not hear yet what’s going on 🤬🤬🤬🤬 and to top it off - the advice of do this, eat this, go for a long walk etc etc. So I’ve told husband and my mum etc not to tell anybody induction dates or anything. It gets too frustrating. Yes defo last baby for me too. What are you having ? I’ve got a boy and having another stubborn boy 🤣🤣. I was actually thinking of being sterilised if I was to have an elective section as I’m serious about no more kids after this xx

@Sara boy as well! I have a little girl so we'll have one of each ☺️ My husband is having a snip, I've suffered enough 😉

@Paulina Aw that’s nice! hahaha. Too right. These husbands should have a trial of child birth 🤣🤣

I feel exactly the same as you. I’m 40+4 today, I’ve tried all the techniques to get labor going but nothing seems to be working. I’ve been booked for an induction on 13th but hoping it doesn’t come to that 😞 Also, am I wrong for being annoyed by the constant messages from people “baby here yet?” ☹️

@Corienne the closer it gets to Tuesday the harder it is to relax 😫 and no, the constant requests for updates are driving me mad too!