Help. Silent treatment

Update: he came home and took all his stuff and left me. Hi, I honestly don’t know what to do right now. You know him, I don’t. He’s been giving me the silent treatment for four days. He won’t talk to me, won’t even look at me, and last night I’m pretty sure he bit me while I was sleeping. Ever since his dad started giving him the silent treatment, he has completely shut down and won’t speak to me at all. The only conversation we had was after Mother’s Day, when I told him how I felt hurt because he seemed completely disinterested—just on his phone, not involved or present. After I said that, he stopped speaking to me altogether. Now it’s already Thursday. Possible reason why he’s upset with me is because I told him that it hurts my feelings that he has no interest in the baby or the photos or the appointments or anything going on. He doesn’t ask me questions. He doesn’t care what I do. He doesn’t care if I’m around. He doesn’t care if I come home. When I come home, he’s just on TikTok and FaceTime everyone else happy and excited but with me he’s just on his phone and ignores me the whole time. I told him very nicely. I can’t live like this. I’m having panic attacks, trying to fix things, but nothing is helping. I’m worried it’s affecting the baby more than anything. I feel completely lost. I already feel punished just for expressing how I feel. I don’t know how to keep coming home to this every night. What do I do from here?

Show your support

I understand how you feel about this. Try find something to do he will come around . Give him space and time

@Shyleen I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to come home. He lays in bed and watches tiktoks constantly. If I say a word he tells me I have nothing to say.

Why is he acting like this? Did you say or do anything other than that to make him not to talk to you?

The silent treatment is unacceptable, he's a grown man (I'm assuming)! He can use his words to tell you why he is upset! You didn't do anything to him to make him not talk to you. You might have said or done something but that is not an excuse for not communicating with you!

This is childish behavior. Especially if he's deciding to bite you?? That's not good. I'd have a stern discussion with him that he's a grown man and needs to act like it. The silent treatment and the biting are absolutely uncalled for and he needs to learn some communication skills. As for you; try your best not to panic. Idk him, but the silent treatment can often be used as a manipulation tactic. If that's what he's doing, you're playing right into his hand. I'd try to go about my day with an 'it is what it is' attitude because at this point, what you've tried so far hasn't worked. Let him have his tantrum and hopefully he'll get over himself 🤷‍♀️

@Imelda so the whole Mother’s Day he made us late and then had me buy breakfast and then didn’t want to help or do anything , and it’s been a week of him FaceTiming his girl friends and going on walks and not communicating and I told him nonchalantly I was like hey it hurts my feelings that you talk to everyone else about what’s going on, but then you don’t talk to me about anything. You just come home and play on your phone and watch your TV show shows and have no interest in the baby and I’m 29 weeks.

I’m sorry but he bit you?! It doesn’t matter what you may or may not have done he can’t act like that. He clearly needs help and to sort things out with his dad. You should not be the one on the receiving end of whatever is happening there. Jeez

Wait I’m so confused is this your son? Or boyfriend.

This is emotional abuse. Please don’t stay with him.

I think it is time for you and baby to go take a vacation and enjoy yourselves for a week or so.

Incognito in that case you are so right to be upset and he is wrong. I’ve tried silence treatment and is so difficult especially when pregnant. He will talk soon ❤️