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@Dorothy Same! We are still up multiple times a night sometimes and we both work full time so it is hard work. You are right. I guess it is now or never and we may as well get the tough years over with rather than get to a good place of sleep and start again 😂 x
My boy was 15 months when I fell pregnant with baby no2. It wasn't planned and I wasn't over the moon at first 🙈 my boy was still waking hourly which had been since 3months old. But, a lot changes in 9 months. When we realised I was pregnant, he started sleeping next to dad and within a month he was down to maybe 1-2 wakes a night. Now I have a 3.5yo and 18mo old and they actually play together and its finally getting easier. It was a tough first year and pregnancy 2nd time around is beyond exhausting with a toddler in tow. But, seeing them cuddle in the mornings and play little games etc is just the best!!!
@Liz Aw that is lovely! Yeah I want her to have a sibling so may just have to bite the bullet and get going 😆
I was the same! It took us 6 years to conceive our 18 month old, we had to have ivf in the end. I always wanted to have at least 2 children, maybe 3 but 2 will be it for us now. We had another ivf transfer and I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant! I’m 36 this year and didn’t want to wait any longer. I figured it may be hard but all so worth it in the end x
My two girls are 22 months apart with the younger being nov 23 and it is hard work! The jump from 1 to 2 is alot because someone always needs you but i wouldnt change it. They have a lovely bond and play together and its just nice to see them love eachother so if u want another but dont wanan be older then go for it. It will be hard but its worth it and your little one u have currently will have a bestie 🤍 as they get older it gets easier in certain ways and harder in others as they both go through developments etc but you just adapt x
I have 2 girls 26 months apart. It definitely is hard but if your hubby helps, it's worth it. Some toddlers don't sleep well so you could be waiting for years if you wait for that. Our oldest will be 4 and still wakes up in the middle of the night crying sometimes.
I’ve just turned 35 and I’m having all the same thoughts as you. I would not have been ready before now but I keep thinking about it more and more. I don’t want to be like 38 with a newborn 😫 I’m getting old haha. It’s a big decision
I feel the same! We had thought to try again this summer but now that feels very close! Things have finally gotten so much easier- not everything lol ie tantrums 🙈 but getting out of the house, naps, eating on the go etc and being more flexible, plus my daughter is finally sleeping through consistently, the thought of starting again is scary but Im 33 so dont want to wait too much longer either ahh!
Kind of yeah I am 30, but I have severe endometriosis and adenomyosis. And pcos. My doctors were shocked when I told them I conceived my 2023 baby naturally. I don't think I should leave it too many years in the future, but I also probably am feeling a bit optimistic since I've been breastfeeding and had hardly any periods since my baby so hopefully this has at least stopped my conditions from getting worse or from losing many eggs. I'm not ready. My partner is not ready. The boy does not sleep well enough for us to have regular sex to conceive 😅 financially we are not there, and mentally, I'm not recovered enough from the birth trauma either. Maybe one day ❤️🙏 I also think I like this stage of just dreaming about it in the future without the pressure of TTC knowing fertility chances are bad. That was stressful.
I feel the exact same, ours still do not sleep through so the idea of having a newborn too is a LOT. If you really don't want a baby past 35 though (but you really want more than 1 child) then I personally would go for it now. It might mean a hard year or two, but otherwise potential lifelong regret 😣 hope that doesn't come across harsh this is just how I think about it for my situation too (we have twins and I'd love another but just don't know if we can handle it / when)!