Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Do you believe in phrase stay for the kids?

I know I don't

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Visitors when baby is born

This is my second baby but my first was born during summer. I can’t shake off the feeling of all the winter bugs going round and not wanting loads of visitors, I don’t even want people to hold my baby when they come is that bad. The thought of it fills me with rage and people are already saying how they can’t wait t...

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Do you thank your partner for changing your child’s nappy?

Or do you feel like cos it’s their child too, why should I thank them?

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Positive stories

I’ve just had my egg retrieval and only got 2 eggs, looking for success or positive stories with a similar retrieval amount?!

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Transfer

Anyone want to connect and chat who has a transfer around mid December ? Tentatively scheduled FET transfer Dec 19

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Imposter

I'm a first-time mom to a nearly 9-week-old, and I still feel like such an imposter who doesn't know what they're doing. Am I taking care of her right? It feels like we've made it this far by sheer luck, and it could all fall apart at any moment. Does this feeling ever go away, or am I truly doing something wrong?

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UK Passport

We’re getting our passports and it has asked us for my maternal parents details, but I don’t know my “real” dad would you just leave it in blank or fill out my step dads?

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Do you think more kids means being happier?

Debating whether to have another baby or stick with my one and only :)

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FET worries

So I have my 3rd FET on Monday, and I’m worried more so bc I work Tuesday and Wednesday and due to meetings and other things I cannot take those days off… long story short with all my other transfers I always rested a few days after but this time I can’t and I’m worried it would effect my results. My current fertil...

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elevated progesterone levels day before trigger?

hi all. i am wondering whether anyone has any experience of this at all please? my progesterone levels were tested yesterday and were 3.7nmol/L (equivalent to 1.16ng/L which I think are the units used in the US and in lots of the stuff i’ve been reading). I am due to trigger tonight. My clinic don’t seem concerned b...

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Booking bloods😫

I got my results back from my booking bloods I had on the 1st of November and I’ve got an iron deficiency so I’ve got to start on iron tablets:( didn’t have this issue with my first…anyone else experienced this🫶🏻

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Was your sweep successful or not?

Have one booked for Wednesday and have heard they don’t have the highest success rates! Bonus points for sharing your story so I know what to expect, thanks in advance!

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Visit or not visit

My brothers have been absent from my son’s life for almost 1.5 years. They havent checked on me at all during my pregnancy. I am thinking I wont even share when my second baby is born (atleast not right away). Is it bad if they just find out through social media? I dont even think I will invite them to meet baby rig...

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Do you feel that parents are attempting to buy childhood memories?

My supervisor discussed an interesting topic of manufacturing child hood magic . In short term that basically so many parents are attempting to buy childhood memories in extravagant ways and what type of adults we will see in the future. Do you feel that there is a way to preserve “childhood magic” without over...

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Just wondering if it’s just my parents?

Do you get help from your parents with looking after your little ones or do you just depend on your partner to help out once there home from work etc?

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Unhelpful

Anyone else realise AFTER having a baby how unhelpful the dad is? Even when he’s got kids of his own and ‘seems’ or told you he was really hands on?

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MatB1

When can I get my MatB1 and from where? Work keep asking for it! Thanks

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BLW / EGGS 🥚

Hey, has anyone offered eggs yet? I’m going to offer my little one eggs but not sure if to give scrambled or slices? Internet says one thing then another? If you’ve offered eggs how did you present them? Tia

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Do I go to baby group?

Last week Monday my daughter (16 months) woke up with a cold. She had a fever etc pretty bad. Two days later me and my son starts feeling a bit unwell. My son (2 months) had very low fever, and only had to take paracetamol for one night. I haven't gotten any fever but do have had a but of a sore throat and sniffle. ...

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Temporary fostering

Has anyone heard of this or done something similar ? Please no judgment . I am really struggling and I just don’t want my baby to suffer because I am going through it. I wish I had friends or family to stay with him for even a day so I can go to the gym or go for a sole walk to clear my head but I can’t . This is t...

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