Screaming fits/Tantrums

First of all. Hang in there Mama 💜 Sounds like baby is learning about how to get what they want/need and needs some help with asking. Here are some ways that have helped me over the years with my littles… - model the proper way to request by phrasing or rephrasing for them - encouraging deep breathing and calm talking - validate their feelings, but be clear about what is ok for you and what is not, and offer an alternative…. “I can see your upset, but I cannot let you put small things in your mouth. That is not safe. Would you like to play with this other just right toy instead? Hope something I’ve said helps. Buckle up though mama cause twos get even more real 🤪

The advice above looks a little mature for a 10 month old! What we do is give ways to self soothe, it takes practice! The main thing to remember is that at the infant stage if something is going on, if you act consistently for 3 days, they accept it as the new normal, but you have to be consistent and not break for those 3 days. It will be beyond misery, but it breaks the cycle and it's clean sailing after that. With my twins, we made sure to keep them to a schedule so their needs were met. The worst thing was when they were trying for mobility but couldn't stand yet, so we had to find ways to hold them up, and standing bouncers ended up being our sanity. I think it's rude to say something is "more real" because every state is real, just in different ways and it's different for every kid. Your feelings are absolutely valid, and it does get easier! If you help with ways to self soothe (like a pacifier or a favorite toy) and enforce some independent solo play on them, and deal with the 3 days of fuss.

@Hannah thank you for that! I’ll definitely try that because I felt at a loss lol it’s just one of those things were I understand he’s getting a reaction and that’s why he keeps doing it. But I was looking for a better approach on my half because like you said I have to be consistent on what I’m hoping to achieve! I greatly appreciate that advice and I’ll be putting that to work as soon as possible

@Dee thank you for the advice! I’ll definitely apply that as well! Everything is a learning process especially for myself as a new mom! I greatly appreciate the assistance and guidance I’ll definitely apply that as well! 🤞

Not feeling your attempts to devalue my comment HanNAH. Butttttt…I got the time tonight 💅🏾 @Mia: Remember, all of us mama are just trying to do our best and hope we get it right. NOBODY has all the answers. Stick with following your gut, continuing asking for help when you need it, and ride the waves of each stage of development with a light heart. They are all fun and special in their own way. 🥰 Now…HanNAH. Lady. Self-soothing is great, but not it is not the single answer to tantrums. It’s never too early to talk to and validate your little one’s feelings. I taught my kids boundaries and deep breathing the moment the tantrums came on the scene. Guess what…It worked for us. Each of my children are able self-regulate, express their feelings, and establish boundaries better than some adults I know. Also….Things getting “more real” is a cultural euphemism that you are clearly not privy too HanNAH 🤦🏾‍♀️ it’s not literal 😮‍💨🙄 good gracious.