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It’s definitely a strange thing to do. Personally I would talk to your partner and make sure your on the same page and then together talk to his family about the situation. I think most rational people would agree with you.
If when it was SD birthday your daughter got no gifts then of course in daughters birthday SD doesn’t get anything Growing up my nan always got me and my sister a little something on the others birthday but it wasn’t only for one! I’d just say that as it isn’t SDs birthday presents aren’t accepted for her and that the day is about daughter like SDs birthday was about SD.. get your partner on side and get him to do the whole are you crazy why are you even considering that haha
Absolutely not I had this with my ex mother in law wanting to buy my oldest a gift on my second son first birthday so he didn't feel left out. I would not let it happen as you do it once and its expected all the time x
Omg my partners family did this but worse! My SD’s are 8 now but up until their 6th birthday his family would buy their cousin presents on THEIR birthday because she was such a spoilt brat she would kick off on their birthday she didn’t get anything - her birthday is only a month later and she’s 2 years older. I couldn’t say anything at the time but I know how frustrated you are. Sorry this was no help at all but I get the frustration
I would say to SD dad that it’s not her birthday, why is she getting a present? On her birthday only she gets presents so that’s how it should be. Children shouldn’t be treated differently and spoilt unnecessarily, it will just cause problems later on.
We always buy a present for the child who’s birthday it isn’t. But it’s always something the same as the birthday child has had. Eg trainers, scooter etc. but they aren’t allowed to open it until after the birthday child has opened their presents. And it’s the same on both of their birthdays. So it’s completely fair.
Just no it wouldn't happen with me 🙃
It IS weird isn’t it… it’s not something we’ve ever done in my family and this is my daughter’s 1st birthday so I’ve never had to do this before. I feel really strongly that this is something I don’t want to set as a precedent for every year. Playing devils advocate it could be that SD birthday is right after Xmas but still the fact there that one day (if this continues) the omission will be noticed. It’s such an odd one isn’t it 🙄😬
Regardless of her age I don’t think this is right at all. It’s your daughters birthday, no one else’s, they’re meant to feel the queens on their own days. Don’t you guys think that as they grow, they might start thinking “why is her present better than mine?” “Why is she getting a present if it’s my birthday?” And then the same when they go to other birthday parties “where is my present? I get a present when it’s my sis birthday”. I think we should help them learn how to make that person special rather than to constantly try to include, just simply help the other kid feel special by asking them for help choosing something for their siblings birthday instead. I also wouldn’t be able to keep up with this as the family grows and more children are born, I mean, 4 kids getting a present every birthday? No thank you 😂
I’d be asking that family member where my gift was on their birthday 🤷🏻♀️
No that’s really weird 😂 how old is SD? Could be a dangerous precedent to set too. Will she get a present for every birthday her sibling has? I would put my foot down.