in February 2021 Babies 🇬🇧

Toddler is constantly unhappy

Our little boy is always crying when he is at home and has huge tantrums when we are out and about. He goes to nursery twice a week and he is perfect there and loves it. We are trying everything with him and are exhausted and mentally drained and stressed and have lost motivation to go out as a family as it always ends in the day being ruined from his tantrums and us having to go home early. Just seeking some sort of support and are we the only ones that seem to have a miserable toddler? 😅😪

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They’re always worse at home than nursery as that’s where they feel comfortable expressing their feelings. I just read your profile and see that you lost your mum. I’m really sorry to hear that. I wonder if you noticed his behaviour got worse around the same time? Sometimes they don’t understand how they feel and can’t put it into words so they just explode with big feelings. We moved house and had a baby within 2 weeks of each other and our toddler had tantrums about all sorts - all unrelated to moving house or baby - but they were definitely because he felt a bit lost and unsure about his life

@Siân Thankyou for your kind message, he has always been like it since a tiny little one though 😆

RESTRAINT COLLAPSE. I've been looking at this post and trying to remember the name of it for aahgeesss. So after my son comes back from his grandparents he turns into a little nightmare for a couple of days. Apparently restraint collapse is the name someone gave this. May help you feel less alone with it!

Yes its normal for them to be more grouchy with you than at nursery as they have to be on their best behaviour there and then they can just relax when they are with you. I always actually used to get upset when they are perfect for others and a nightmare for me, it used to really get me down. But then someone told me YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG. they are like that because you are doing it all RIGHT. You are the best mum ever and doing the best job ever. The tantrums are not a reflection of you ❤. When those things happen I find it helps me to look after myself, make sure you meet friends, eat food, coffee and just do something for yourself which helps to see perspective on the situation and feel better. Remember to look after yourself too ❤❤

@Helen thank you so very much, this made me tear up 🥲 means so much, thankyou ❤️

Aw no worries at all, you are doing the best job and dont ever forget it xx

@Helen Thankyou ❤️ the same to you too if you ever feel this way xx

Also I'm really sorry you've lost your mum 😔 ❤, I'm sure she would be very proud of you xx

@Helen thanks so much, she was a wonderful kind person and cheerful always through her health struggles bless her ❤️ xx

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