Anxiety - how people coping

Well firstly congratulations! So amazing you fell pregnant naturally. Try and stay positive. I keep telling myself healthy mind, healthy baby 👏🏼 That’s a shame midwives won’t talk to you? Not even for some reassurance! I would definitely recommend booking an early pregnancy test. We booked ours at 7 weeks and I measured 7+4. Im pretty sure most places will see you from 6 weeks though! And it’ll make you feel so much better. Hope all goes well 💖

Congratulations! When I had anxiety the only thing that helped me settle it is going for private scans and talking to my partner. How far along do you think you are?

Hi, thank you for your message. Congrats to you too. That good way to think about it. Healthy mind healthy babe. I'm going to make that daily mantra. I've been looking at early scans that get from 6 weeks. We going to book one of them and hopefully, that ease my mind for 12 weeks. I hope everything goes well for you too. 💖

I can totally relate to the anxiety! We weren’t trying for long but I had 2 early miscarriages in a row so my brain was programmed to just expect the same this time. I was the same constantly testing every day, I had to stop at 5.5 weeks because the hook effect started to kick in which was sooo stressful until I learnt what it was! But I’m so glad to be done with testing, I think it makes the anxiety worse after a point trying to work out if the line is darker than the last test. Agree with the ladies above about early private scans. We’ve done 2, one at 6 weeks and one at 8.5 weeks which is on Sunday. Then no more after that, but my anxiety was so bad I had to break up the first trimester and get reassurance xx

Hi Becky, thank you for the story. I am sorry you had to go through that and then have the anxiety. We've just booked a scan for 7 weeks next week. I am hoping it's all there and safe. Things I don't have sickness. Only symptoms I have are slightly sore nipples, cramping and fatigue. I think im I suppose to be feeling them stronger.

@Nicola I am 6 weeks 1 day. My partner not being very helpful. He seems to be taking the piss out of me by taking loads of tests.

@Jessie aww definitely don’t worry about that - some people get no symptoms whatsoever. My sister with both of her pregnancies wouldn’t have even known she was pregnant until 10 weeks ish, had she not tested. No symptoms at all and two healthy babies! Some have mild symptoms, some have strong symptoms! Honestly don’t let that worry you at all. You’re just one of the lucky ones that has mild symptoms 🤍 I have nausea and constipation and it’s rubbish, but I have days where the symptoms disappear and it stresses me out so much. But it’s all natural and everyone is different! Xx

@Becky aww thank you. That makes me feel a lot better. I'm so worried when on morning my boobs don't hurt as much but my symptom come back later on day. You've put mind ease little thank you. 🙂

@Jessie nooo not at all! I did the same thing with taking tests!! It took me weeks to stop testing and a lot of money gone but it put my mind at ease!! Also my partner kept on telling me to stop taking tests. 😂 you do you! My partner didn’t want me to go for a private scan at first but I knew I needed it for me. And to help my anxiety!! In the end he grown to love the private scans

@Jessie if I were you I’d definitely book a private scan for 7-8 weeks ! You’ll love it

@Nicola thank you. I think a private scan will ease my mind till I need to go at 12 weeks.

Congratulations! I am in a similar boat to you, conceived after 3 years trying still can't believe it. The midwives here also won't talk to me until 8 weeks which is frustrating as I have health anxiety and so many questions about the things going on in my body. I'm trying not to stress too much for the health of the baby. If taking extra tests is comforting to you then I think it's okay to do it. I know a few women who did this too. But if you feel it's feeding your anxiety then try to limit yourself to every few days. Give yourself space to believe the results. Ask yourself if not testing will really change anything. If you have a good relationship with your GP I suggest going to them for some general advice and maybe some help for your anxiety. Also as others have said early reassurance scans. There's a place near me that does intravaginal scans from 5 weeks.

@Gemma thank you for messaging. Congrats to you too. I feel more at ease since I am not the only one that feeling the same. I am going to try speak with doctors tomorrow and see if I can get appointment to speak with someone. I now have scan book for weeks time. So I am looking forward to that.

Congratulations! I'm sorry I don't relate to your situation, but I send you a lot of support, try to book a relaxing massage, and I'm not of the idea of staying "positive". I'm the kind of person who leaves things in God's hands and everything happens for a reason. So I would say, enjoy what you have today, love it and live it. If it last, it would be amazing and if it doesn't, at least you experience it. But please try to calm down, since stress really really affects the baby's development. If you need anxiety medication, talk to your GP, medication is less harmful to the baby than anxiety itself. ♥

@Julia Thank you for your reply. Since speak with a lot of lovely supportive ladies on here has helped me a lot with my anxiety. I think I need people who going through the same thing. Congrats to yourself on your lovely little miracle because all babies are.