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Hey mamas :) I’m thinking about becoming a SAHM. Part of me is scared I will regret leaving my job. For context I have 2 children - 3 and 2 months and we want 2 more. I have been working full time but with having to be back in the office full time I am thinking of quitting.
For those moms who have made that transition, do you regret it?
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Learn more about our guidelines.Overall, no I don't regret it. I didn't have a career I loved though. I had a job. I think it would have been much harder for me to make that choice if I had a career I wanted to continue with. I do think being a sahm is hard on my mental health. I miss having conversations with other adults. I'm pretty shy and reserved and still don't know a lot of people where we live. So it's just me and the kids most days. We go to the library and parks when it's nice and stuff. But I don't get a lot of interaction with other adults. And when I do, if they aren't also a sahm I feel like I have nothing of value to add to the conversation 🙃
Absolutely not. Leaving work (and also grad school) was by the far the best decision I have ever made. I do look forward to returning to my career path one day but I feel immense gratitude to be the one raising my daughter full time. I know for a fact I won't lay on my death bed wishing I spent less time with her, and not a day goes by that I wish I was at work and not by her side, even on the tough days. Follow your heart 💕
i was a teacher and left my job after maternity leave - best decision i ever made!
I m a working mom (but working from home and having a nanny). If I had to leave my 2 months old to go to a office I would have quit my job. I got back to work after 16 months off because the conditions of my job are very convenient (I can see my baby throughout the day and finish early so I can spend time with him in the afternoon). Of course it also depends. I would have an honest talk with your partner about finances so you can be sure not to be a victim of not earning money. (What are your legal protection in case hubby dies ? (Sorry it's not nice but it's important to protect you and the kids!!!) - how are you gonna manage finance to have also money for your personal expenses (sports, activities, clothes,...)? - in case you split some day, how are you gonna survive with no money??). That sounds like a not nice conversation to have but you have to think about all possibilities when you lose all financial independancy. You MUST be protected in case you get a divorce, in case your husband dies.
I can see too much SAHM doing the hardest job on earth being victims of financial abuse and or left totally unprotected and POOR when husband decides to leave the relationship or forced to remain in a unfulfilling or abusive relationship because they can't afford to leave. I mean. Big YES to be with your kiddos. BUT you should have a plan. ☺️
I have mixed feelings. I don’t regret it I just miss the person I was. I used to work 12 hour shifts and overnight so I think I would have been sad leaving my newborn but I feel like now I’m just a mom and have nothing outside of that. I’ve been a SAHM now for almost little over a year now it’s a tough transition and especially since I’m away from family and friends now.
It’s a lot mentally and emotionally. There’s good days and bad days some days I wonder what it would be like to go back but most days I am glad I get to be fortunate enough to stay home with my little one and I’m looking forward to going to all the school events for my oldest when she moves with us.
I have always been independent tho and raised my oldest as a single mom so not having my “own” money sucks sometimes.
I think for the most part it’s what you make of it tho the time with your kids you’ll never get back and if your able to why not?
Hey mama. I was in your shoes but now I wfh and it is definitely easier knowing my babygirl is in her room breaking something 😂😂
Also, I work in insurance and finance and know a few wfh jobs that are available if you are interested!
I don’t regret becoming a SAHM at all! I was 100% planning on going to work after my daughter but when the time came I just couldn’t bring myself to go and I am super fortunate we were in a financial situation where I had the option to stay home. I can’t imagine not having all the time I have with my toddler because it STILL feels like she’s growing too quickly and I’m with her 24/7.
You are replaceable in every single job except for being a mom 🤷🏻♀️ To me, the few years I give up my job (and the impacts that has on my career long term) is completely worth it
Nope! I left my job when my daughter was 2 and I absolutely love being a SAHM. Best decision I ever made and I wish we had, had the financial possibilities to do it when she was first born!
@Shay hey :) thank you for sharing ! I pmed you !
I have mixed feelings about it 🤔 I miss working because I miss knowing that I can make my own money butttt I know that our son wouldn’t be in better hands than mine because no one is going to care for him as I care for him 🩵 sometimes I do miss working because I feel so cupped up and bored though plus, I think working is easier than taking care of a baby and house everyday🥹😅 but long story short, there are days where I wish I was working but 98% of the time I’m happy that I get to be a SAHM and be with my little one 🩵
I have become an unplanned SAHM. I have my own business, but the work hasn't been there since having my little one, that or I just don't have the time or energy to push it like I used to. Part of me really struggles not having my own income and being that person who has to say no to everything because of finances. BUT I love being home with my son. I love our slow mornings, bumbling around and just being so present with him. I do feel like I've lost myself, and it does get boring. Some days are hard. But I am rolling with this season and wouldn't change it.
I had a career that I loved, so I do miss working. However, I’m extremely lucky to be able to be a Sahm so I just take it day by day and have comfort knowing my career will always be there, but I can’t get these moments with my son back.
I love my job,but honestly mom or not, if I had to go back to the office full time, I’m quitting on site! If there’s an added perk of being with your baby, and you have support with the transition, I say go for it!
never regretted it. my job replaced me the same week i quit, my family could never replace me though if i “quit” and being home with my children has been such a great experience that ill never look back.
@Sophia Hey I just responded 😁