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How do you know whether to have another baby?

How do you make a decision to either have another baby or to be one and done? I absolutely love my daughter but the transition has been a major one full of so much learning. Things are good, we have a flow and our life with her in it is perfect but I do battle with the idea of whether to have another one or not, I can’t imagine life without my sibling and feel some guilt about not providing that because of how difficult it might be. I had a pretty traumatic birth and would love to experience it again, hopefully with a more positive experience but right now we have a balance and are able to have that adult time that I do crave and that is important to us. As my daughter turns two, I imagined I’d be in a position to have another child (before I had one) but now I’m not sure and wonder does anyone ever truly feel ready to have baby number two? Any thoughts on this topic would be so helpful and hopefully provide an insight I hadn’t considered.

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Bit of advice I was given was "you will never regret having a baby but you may regret not having a baby" I'm in the same boat as you really struggling with it but I think if they are close in age it's not so bad because your knowledge is fresh and they grow up together and play together, alot of people have said to me they found it easier having 2 young children over having just the one, but honestly only you know what you can and can not deal with, I still haven't made my mind up 😂

I am happily one and done. We feel complete as a family of 3 and while I have the occasional ‘what if’ moment, for me the negatives outweigh the positives. Very different for everyone though, it took me a very long time to even consider having one child, and I never imagined myself having more than one if I ever did. I think my husband would consider another but he has said it’s up to me. For me, we can give more with one (more time, more financially). I’ve been able to be a SAHM knowing that I don’t have to save or budget for more than one. I have 4 half siblings and I’m not especially close with any of them so I don’t feel like she’s missing out without a sibling. We have a lot of friends with children, and a lot of family so she’s got a great social network.

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