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@Lauren thank you🤎 I’ve literally been trying to find someway to spin it where “I’m wrong” or “overreacting” and I’ve offered more than enough help and chances ..
You've done everything you can and more. It's on your ex now. I wouldn't let them take my daughter to be so careless about something like this. He doesn't have a leg stand on!
I definitely wouldn't allow that either. Please paper yourself in case he disputes it in court. Like, send a text confirming that you showed up for access as scheduled but you weren't comfortable with him taking her because of the carseat issue. Then it's much harder for him to claim later that that's not what happened. Put that you offered alternatives but he refused, so it's clear you did your best to accommodate.
Noooooope! Nope, nope, nope! He is being extremely careless and stupid with his child's safety! You need to report him and do exactly what you know you need to do. Honestly, if he is this lazy and careless about it, I'm kind of afraid that even if he is eventually forced to get a seat, he will just continue not using it anyway. If he does that, do anything to document proof and use it against him. If he continues to be this way, she should never be allowed in a vehicle with him!
In the UK we are being told to leave children rear facing as long as possible. I won't be front facing for as long as I can get away with it. I would rather keep my child safe. Rear facing minimises the impact of a car crash versus forward facing.
@Sachiko yep, it’s at the Police Department so there’s cameras! And I make sure to get a incident number from the police so I can document it legally💯🙏🏽
@Katie exactly! Every parent knows that those videos that they show you about what could happen are terrifying! I already had a feeling that he didn’t really wanna be a part of her life. He’s just doing because his partner and her family are making him. But the things I keep saying, just make me wish you would just quit. I hate that for my daughter, but honestly even her pediatrician is convinced he’ll eventually walk away and never come back because he doesn’t care..
Someone rear ended us on the highway 2 weeks ago. We rolled 3 times, the car was totaled. I sit in the back with my son most of the time even though he's almost a year old. The whole time, I was being whipped around. I kept my eyes in him. He was startled and scared, but barely moved in his car seat. THIS is exactly why I preach about following carseat safety guidelines and making sure your child is strapped in properly at ALL times. There has been a time or 2 where his father was like "it's a 2 minute drive and he was fussing" and the baby was looser than supposed to be strapped in. I got upset and said something about it. Ever since, he straps him in properly. If someone is taking him for the day like my mom, I give a whole lesson in how to clip him in and how tight it should be. I do not care how annoyed she is about it, my child will be safe. And he is alive today after this accident because of it.
The officer thanked me for having him rear facing and strapped in properly. He said he's had nightmares after a time they couldn't revive a baby who wasn't strapped in right. The nurse told me they've never seen a baby come in from snapped legs while rear facing, but they have seen plenty of broken necks from forward facing accidents. Broken legs are better than the alternative. For reference, my baby is also a decent size, about the same 27/28 pounds, 30 inches, and a year old. I wouldn't want him in a car thay doesn't even have a back seat.
@Jayliz thank you so much for sharing that with me! I feel like the support I have gotten from the mom’s response to this post. I’ve helped me reassure myself to stay in my ground on this matter! My daughter safety will always come first… I think I already mentioned it. I practically offered to unblock my baby in my car seat and put it in his car so he would have one that was suitable for him to transport her in his car to spend time with her as well as offering to help him get one for free… it sucks that their parents out there that really don’t give a shit about their kids safety or about their kids in general, I’m hoping the church will see it as a joke and she’ll take it seriously🙏🏽
You are 100% correct. You fed him every option and alternative, he declined, that's on him 🤷♀️
She shouldn’t be forward facing at all. Maybe give him the research on extended rear facing. She should be rear until atleast 2/3 but best 4/5
I don't know how anyone could find it acceptable to ignore safety laws for children. Stand your ground. God forbid if he took her one day, forward facing and was in an accident. I would never be able to forgive myself.