Moms of mulitples

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I assume you mean multiple c-sections, not multiples like twins/triplets? I just had my 2nd c-section last month. My experience was the exact same as my first except this time I knew what to expect and I felt more prepared. I also healed faster afterward. Or maybe again that was just better knowing my limits and all the tricks of how to move with a fresh incision. In 10 years you might regret having more children if you want them. You won't look back and regret a c-section you can't even remember.

My section second actually was a lot better than my first, I knew what to expect and my healing was much quicker this time

My first csection was 2.5 years ago and was an emergency one because labour wasn't progressing after 24 hours. I was actually relieved to have a csection as I was scared of giving birth naturally. During the actual csection I panicked because it felt like I couldn't breath, I was shaking and I think I was sick at one point but overall the csection experience was good. Recovery was okay. I pushed too far to fast so instead of 6 to 8 weeks it was more like 6 to 8 months before I fully recovered. Had my second 3 weeks ago and elected for a planned section. The csection was amazing. The staff were great. No shakes. No panic. I was sick but they gave me anti sickness straight away to help. It was calm and friendly. I wasn't exhausted. Recovery so far has been a lot smoother. The first 3 days I pretty much stayed in bed/on the couch. Partner did all the stuff with the toddler. I had a section on the Monday and by the Saturday I was up and moving with plenty of sit downs. Sunday I was out and about.

Following. I am also looking to know how long should we wait between the first and the second? I know NHS says 2 years. Is it that the due date of the baby should be after 2 years or should I conceive after 2 years

I had two full term pregnancies and had c sections with both. My first one was a nightmare. I ended up with an infection and healing was the dreadful. They had to leave my wound open and required cleaning daily with gauze stuffing and everything! I was determined to have a VBAC with the next one but then found out we were having twins. So I knew it wouldn’t be an option anymore. I was really worried. But my doctor did an amazing job. Healing was so much better the second time around. I felt good with moving around within the first 3 weeks and felt more comfortable and confident. I get your point of view though, especially if you had a bad experience from the first one. But I’m so happy we tried for more.

Things we have found hard: is reminding toddler that I cant pick her up or sit down on the floor to play. Juggling both baby and toddler at times. Broken sleep. We're not sleep deprived but I am more tired and find it harder to find my get up and go. What I liked about the second section was that I wasn't exhausted from being in labour all day. Healing is going much faster and easier this time. x

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@Swati Sharma I got told one year and I'm in the UK. I started trying when toddler was 17.5 months old, got pregnant when she was 21 months and gave birth when she was just shy of 2.5 years/29 months. X

@Emma thanks for letting me know. I remember being told 2 years of gap is required just before leaving for OT but I noted your practical experience as I want another one

@Swati Sharma in Canada they want a minimum of 18 months between deliveries if you are going to try for a VBAC. 24 months is preferred. I got pregnant right away after my c-section and my OB told me she had no concerns since I had no complications with the first. Since my 2nd delivery was only 10.5months after my first, it also had to be a c-section. The risk is uterine rupture (particularly along the previous incision site). I'd aim for an 18 month gap between sections, as recommended. But obviously shorter is possible.

I got pregnant too soon PP. My children are 14 months apart which meant there was quite a risk for VBAC so I went for c-section. It was an incredibly hard choice. I cried for months. Additionally after having two c section VBAC is never recommended. I looked forward to giving birth so bad but in the end even though I was more or less willing to bleed out myself I couldn't risk the baby. I changed my mind at the very end and scheduled a late elective c section (both British and Swedish medical teams advised me to have a c section). For the recovery I was a bit unlucky as I got a stomach bug the day of my surgery and got thrown out of the hospital before I had healed due to risk of infecting others. So for me second c section was harder to heal from. My first c section I was up and about same day pretty much, second took me about a week.

I got pregnant in the UK and was also told 18 months (where i had my first child). I was also told 18 months by Swedish healthcare after I moved back home to finish my pregnancy. And it's 18 months between due dates.

@Umunna Princess you don’t have money for c section and you’re due tomorrow? You’re not serious are you

Asked heal baby care app and sharing in case it helps: "It's completely normal to have mixed feelings about having more children after a C-section, especially as a first-time mom. Many moms who have had multiple C-sections report that while the experience can still be daunting, they often feel more prepared and less anxious the second or third time around. The recovery process can vary, but many find it easier since they know what to expect. It's important to consider your own feelings about pregnancy and recovery, as well as any medical advice regarding the safety of having more C-sections. Have you had any specific concerns or experiences from your first C-section that you're worried about for a potential second?"

My first C-section was an emergency one. It was terrible and completely freaked out. Also wasn’t sedated properly so I could still feel them cutting me. My second one was this past December. It was such a better experience. I was relaxed and didn’t feel anything. Healing was about the same but better since I knew what to expect

I might be sounding silly but do they make a cut at the same place for the second or third if the baby’s position is just as the first one?

@Tara thanks Tara! Aw bless you and I hope you recovered from your c sections. So I had my first one on 9 September 2024 so am I still within the 2 year VBAC threshold if I we’re pregnant again next year in December 2026 so my next baby will be due by Sept 2027 which is 2 years exactly. I see you said 24 months gap between the deliveries so I must have got it right

@Swati Sharma they use the same incision line the 2nd and 3rd time unless there is too much scar tissue

I know I sound so silly but I always wonder if expansion of my belly will pain my incision area or will you open due to stretching of my belly?

@Swati Sharma my first was breech most of my pregnancy flipped back to breech last second during C-section. My second was head down the whole pregnancy and they cut in the same place. I’m not really sure what the reasoning for having to cute somewhere else would be tho. I’m assuming what type of incident you have done. Mine were horizontal

My section was just as calm as happy as my first. My scar is the exact same scar, just as neat and tidy. I would happily have 3/4 babies and will have sections for all of them.