Struggling as a working mom
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Whats the cost difference between quitting vs hiring the nanny full time? I second the part time ask or finding a way to flex your hours more. Its always worth the ask- they may work with you.
@Jen I can certainly ask. There are 2 other newish moms, so I could see them not wanting to let me do it in case they also wanted to. We can afford a more full time nanny, and it would leave us in a better financial state for me to keep my job. That’s probably the safest option. I think I just want to be the one taking care of her.
@Leighann we probably lose $50k more if I quit as opposed to getting a nanny. I’ve been calling my job “fluffy pink handcuffs” because it’s a good job, but I feel trapped right now.
If you think you can swing it financially and things like health insurance aren’t a big deal id at least try it if you cant reduce your hours. I always advocate for leaving places that make you miserable. I even went back to waiting tables for awhile because I was that miserable at my corporate job. Plus you only get this time once so if its doable its worth a try. Id just be very honest about your budget and your husband’s expectations
Could you ask for part time at your job so you don't lose it completely? Surely they understand you are a mommy to a little one. Also if you can afford a nanny possibly full time how expensive would that be? Wouldn't it even itself out if you just took care of her or at least part time instead of paying more for a full time nanny? Otherwise, honestly...I say if your husband supports the idea you stay home for then next year and have faith things will work out when the time comes. You won't get that year back, that time back, ever. And if you don't even like your job...you are going to be resentful giving more of your time to it vs your child.