Some help please

I’d give her more space firstly, baby girl might not like how constraining that is. If I was in your shoes I’d check she’s not hungry, burped, clean nappy, warm enough, soft materials on her skin (not too scratchy), not too over stimulated and the big one is over tired. Then there is the bigger issues such as reflux, poo issues or ear infections. It would be interesting to know if she is happier in your arms, and held upright?

I mean Nicole, I have tried that you know... im not a dick. She doesnt settle anywhere !

Not only that but I wasnt that close to her, my camera was zoomed in actually so thanks for trying to make me feel like a shit parent

How old is she? Could it be colic? Or maybe overheating. My boy was crying yesterday for a bit and removed his sleep suit to check his nappy and he literally stopped. So maybe she is warm?

that sounds like an uncomfortable cry - if you’ve done all of the above, i can imagine you’ve checked if she’s too hot or cold. maybe worth an A&E visit? or at least a 111 call? it could possibly be colic or reflux that she’s struggling with. hopefully you find something to help settle your little one, i can imagine you’re hurting yourself a bit 🤍

Could this be what they call purple crying? Unfortunately, it seems to be a very natural period in a baby's development, and not much could be done, besides offering comfort, which I'm sure you do. On the bright side, people say this period doesn't last forever.. Might be worth checking with the GP just to be sure. In no way you're a shit mum, it's just what we feel when we can't soothe out little ones, it's heart breaking 😓

@Yana she is 11 weeks. I dont know if it could be colic, maybe? She is only wearing a vest but I will take it off to see how she gets on x

I’m going through this too and it’s hard because I know I’ve been getting very overwhelmed. Literally the only thing I’ve found to help which sounds mad but a soft blanket covering her face and bopping up and down. She will settle for maybe an hour I’ll put her down with blanket covering eyes but then at it again. Obviously at night this is harder hence why I haven’t really slept in 12 weeks. Was told by a doctor to go for a drive or walk in the pram but definitely never helped and honestly just burst into tears going out in public like I didn’t know what I was doing 🫣

The back arching is gas/reflux.

@Rebecca I think Nicole was talking about giving her more space because of being in the chair, not because of you being close, I don't think she's at all suggesting you're a 'shit parent' just trying to go through everything. My boy sometimes sounds like this and I think he may be teething a bit early!

Is the crying happening all through the day or is it more towards end of the day/ evening? Very common for babies to become very unsettled later in the day and evening in the first 3 months as they become very overstimulated because everything is so new. Are there windows of the day where she is happy and more settled?

My little one does this almost every night, I agree with the above that it could be purple crying. My daughter is always fed burped and clean etc we tried white noise for a while and that worked until it stopped but maybe try white noise and I read that holding them while ‘shushing’ louder than they’re crying helps too, that definitely works with my daughter I hold her and bonce her while ‘shushing’ louder than she cries. Hope things get better soon and just remember that you’re doing everything you can and you’re doing amazing 🩷

@quira I called 111 yesterday, they just send me to A+E and when I get there, the doctor just says it is silent reflux and the only thing they can give is gaviscon which isnt helping

@Siobhan im so sorry you are going through this. It is comforting though to know that im not alone x

@Emily Timbrell throughout the day but constant at night. Usually worst at tea time x

I think it can be worse in the evenings sometimes as the gas builds up throughout the day, I think the only thing that can help a little is just keeping bub upright most of the day, which you are probably doing anyway. Hopefully the GP can prescribe something 🙏🏼. In the meantime have you tried a bath or some fresh air just to settle her a little, of course that won't solve the problem altogether though, but may provide some short term relief 🤞🏻

@Rebecca I can imagine it must be really hard. I would go with your gut on this- there are some babies that do cry an awful lot in the first three months and are usually defined as colicky babies - it’s a bit of a myth what colic is but suggestions are that it’s discomfort in the tummy area so arching back and pulling on legs when crying is usually a symptom of it. If you feel like it’s something else and aren’t comfortable I would ask a doctors advice for peace of mind but I would more than likely think that it will come to a fairly quick stop between 3-4 months. In the meantime to get through it I would try - very loud shusshing in a calm and understimulating environment eg no tv / bright lights etc, taking baby out in fresh air to reset, a carrier / sling, a warm bath. These are things that helped us with our fussy periods x

Hi! My daughter does this too - some call it the witching hour

Is she on the bottle or boob? If the latter i’d really recommend trying cutting milk from your diet. It might not do anything but CMPA is a common cause of reflux/silent reflux. Reflux can also make them congested ie. snotty nose. If they can’t breathe through their nose well, they won’t feed well and will swallow air which in turn will make them gassy and more refluxy. Again it may not help but when you’re at the end of your tether anything is worth a try ♥️ We went through this with our first, she’d never sleep on her back ever until we cut milk and went on prescription formula (combi)

@Madeleine formula x

@Rebecca it’s honestly been so hard first I was told colic then, CMPA then reflux she does have another review Friday but all you want is to be able to settle them. Hopefully you can get some answers xx

@Siobhan I hope you can too. Only a message away if you need to talk, sometimes that helps. One day we will forget this hard time x

My son is the same age and is like this a lot too so I feel you. Mine is ebf too so I can’t even tap out because the only thing that I can ever do to soothe him is offer my boobs even if he isn’t hungry, I just become the dummy and sometimes it feels like the days go by and I’ve achieved nothing. I think I have every gadget there is (mostly reusing from my first) and he isn’t interested in any of it. I have used dentinox a few times to see if it makes any difference and the one thing that seems to soothe him at night is his swaddle. I have some very thin cotton silent night ones for this weather and they help with the startle reflex. I also use a bit of lavender spray in the crib - no idea if any of it is helping but I’m trying any combination of things until something sticks. I hope things get easier for you x