Advice pls

Physical violence, I take control of their hands gently but firmly and say things like “hands are not for hitting, feet are not for kicking others etc…” If they continue to do it, I will not “tell” them again in that same episode. I will instead hold my child after removing them from the triggering area and let them know “since you are not in control of your body and are hurting others, I will now have to help you.” She will probably squirm and scream and I don’t get mad, just hold their back to my stomach while we are sitting and do deep breathing to regulate theirs. “Deep breaths, and then demonstrate.” And just repeat. A physical restraint should not be painful and you should not be angry. The goal of it is to teach them self regulation through breathing and showing boundaries that their body must be under control. If you are angry or under duress, placing them in a safe place by themselves where they cannot hurt others is another option for a few minuhat

If they are ignoring you… and it’s clear they have heard you, I don’t make threats or repeat myself. If I say “it’s time to leave the park” And they ignore me or say “no” Without a word, I pick them up and we go, If I say “put that down” and they say “no” Without a word, I remove the object from their hands. I don’t negotiate with terrorists lol

@Janis thank you so much the struggle is real the little demon does not like to listen she just chooses violence instead lol x

@Brittany Perhaps an exorcism then lol

@Janis think that may be the way forward tbh will remember that tip when my little boy starts doing the same

@Brittany I’m not gonna lie… the first time you do the “hold” method for violence…. Their body might actually levitate and you will think you are legit doing an exorcism the way their little backs arch and they start screaming… lol but you aren’t hurting them as long as you arent squeezing or angry. You just keep your voice calm and even and reassure them they are safe and you are helping them regain control So I would only do this at home at first But if you are guys are out in public, you might just have to leave the area. Sometimes kids just have trouble regulating with so much stimulation… and so they act out and are “irrational” and get violent because they are completely dysregulated…. and so going somewhere quiet is sometimes enough for them to be able to come back down from all the stimulation.