Toddler being angry
Hey everyone. My LO is 3 in September and all of a sudden he has started showing a lot of what I can only see as anger. He screams at the top of his lungs to get what he wants e.g. Tv (which we're trying to cut out). When he doesn't get what he wants he slams himself to the floor; headbutting, kicking and biting himself. When he stops that he either throws things at me and his dad, smashes up the room or tries hitting/kicking/punching us. We don't do any of these things, we don't yell, kick, hit etc. So no clue where he's even picking it up from. Sometimes we're able to calm him and tell him it's not nice to do those things and says it makes us sad which he repeats back to us and seems to understand but a few minutes later he's back to it. I'm literally at my wits end, I feel like I'm failing as a parent and doing something wrong. Any tips on how to stop this behaviour and does anyone else's child do this?
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@Amy I think I've maybe been looking at the wrong advice online as everything says to make them understand how you're feeling but you're completely right, that isn't the point! I'll do some more research on positive parenting and validating their feelings and helping them build better coping mechanisms. Thank you so much 😊
I guess there are so many different approaches to the behaviour, and sooo much advice out there, I try to remind me and my husband that she is only little! Just try and do what feels best for you! ❤️
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Sounds to me like a 3 year old tantrum! It is normal for them to not know how to regulate their emotions. Prioritize staying calm and validating their feelings, while also guiding them toward healthier coping mechanisms I would say it is difficult for a child to know what to do when you say you make them sad, as that is your emotion, instead you can try to say Its ok to have big feelings, but it's not okay to shout/kick etc.. I like it when you touch me gently with kind hands. Redirect their attention, offer choices when possible, and teach them to express their emotions verbally. it's important to validate their emotions and try to get to the bottom of what they are trying to communicate. Remember they are little people with big emotions ❤️