Absolutely no sex drive, how do I fix this?
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Breastfeeding definitely contributes as it keeps your oestrogen low. But then even if you're not breastfeeding it takes a long time for your body to recover from pregnancy and birth, hormonally, physically, mentally. Combined with lack of sleep, huge pressures, feeling touched out and constantly needed etc, it's a recipe for just wanting nothing more than sleep at night! I know I really struggle with it from that perspective. I feel like I mentally want it but physically can't bring myself to be up for it. What helps me is getting to bed nice and early, spending quality time with my OH having nice bonding time before bed and lots of warm up. I think taking the pressure off sex and focus more on connection and fun and see if the sex comes back. You need to regain yourself and your relationship first...if that makes sense!
Mirroring what Lucy said their are probably a whole heap of factors but feeling like you again really if key. Do you ever get time to yourself half an hour for a bath after LO has gone to bed etc as well as time as a couple it's so hard to find this time you'll be doing things separately or as a whole family. Can you carve out one evening a week to have a "date night" no pressure of anything physical just order a takeaway, watch a film, have a proper chat over a glass of wine. Focus on refinding yourself and strengthening your relationship. Sex will come again when you are ready don't pressure yourself this last year has been a lot
Like others mentioned are you breastfeeding? I was exclusively pumping and stopped a few weeks ago and it’s come back normal within a few days of stopping xx
Yes I am breastfeeding but I had this issue even before getting pregnant… 🫣
i have this exact issue and not breastfeeding!
Not tried it myself but both maca root & ashwagandha (natural supplements) are meant to help boost libido - won’t be instantaneous though x
Could your partner play their role in this? I know for example, that having a really good quality conversation and quality time with my husband makes me remember how smart and attractive he is to me. I find that libido is like 90% phycological. I find i have zero libido when we're rushing around and I'm having to take on a lot of the mental load. Perhaps your partner could plan a nice eve for you both? Even if it's a takeaway and a film x
Out of interest are you breastfeeding?