How do we cope with a second?
My son is nearly 3 and autistic. My second has just turned 1.
My first developed very typically until he had a huge regression at 13 months and lost all skills, eye contact and words.
My second currently responds to name, good eye contact and loves people and animals.
I can’t help but feel my second has some “quirky” traits such as he’ll randomly throw his hands in the air at nothing, he has always been funny about any kind of restriction, will scream when I change him or put him in pram/car seat which I feel is a sensory thing. He hasn’t weaned well either and isn’t really saying words or gesturing - he started saying mama dada and nana a couple months ago and hasn’t said them for about 3/4 weeks but randomly said them this morning a few times and nothing since. He will randomly clap and wave but not on command.
I am constantly over analysing my youngest and just fear every moment he is also going to be autistic. My oldest is extremely hard work and has very little understanding and zero speech and im just fearful my second born will be the same 😭
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I understand your fears. Keep reminding yourself that each child is different. Sometimes, we have to take it one day at a time. Just remember that many autistic people live full lives; and, even if they need a lot of support, it's okay. We will do our best to support them with whatever they need. Feel free to message me if you want to talk.
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Oh I feel you I also have two children the first being autistic and I completely understand the constant comparing “just in case”. But please don’t get stressed or worry too much, babies have a regression sometimes when they are learning big things developmentally. My 1 year old forgot how to roll whilst he was getting to grips with crawling. So it could be that your little one is learning something big and other things are taking a step back xx