Regretting c sec

And also does anyone have any Postive VBAC stories? I just wanna experience labour!! xx

Babe there is nothing to regret you didn’t have a choice that’s why you had an emergency csection they wouldn’t call it that if you had a choice it would have been an elective. If you waited longer you or baby could have died, there is nothing to regret nor blame yourself for, you did the right and only thing for you and your baby! My scar is awful too glad i’m getting a new one next Wednesday when I have my elective (my first was an emergency too) but if I wasn’t having that you can get steroid cream/injections to improve the appearance if it’s keloid like mine and the apron belly can go with certain exercises! Plenty of people have had successful vbacs and i’m sure you can too! What I would say though is not to glamourise labour, plenty of people have a lot of trauma and dangerous scenarios during labour too- what’s safest is always best!

So I've had a open myomectomy which is basically a csection then I had a csection with my son and will be having one with my daughter pm the 2nd of June. After the myomectomy it was too dangerous to have my son naturally without possibly causing ruptures because I was pregnant a year after. The scar from the myomectomy was absolutely horrible and when I had my son they tidied it up for me but has left me with the "csection shelf/over hang" I've just watched a video on how to reduce the "shelf"for after i have my daughter so will be giving it a god once I've healed from the section. Not sure how long after your section you can do it but might be worth researching to see if it will help you? My sister had an emergency section with my nephew then went onto having a successful vbac with my niece. But then my friend had a section then a vbac which was successful but it was very traumatic for her and she still suffers from the memories of it now and her son is 3 years old.

I struggled with regret so much about c section and not trying harder to breast feed my twins. You're hormones are still all over the place 3 months pp. I'm now 7 months pp and I can honestly say the regret went away 6-7 months. I feel very content with what happened happened and there's no going back or changing it and accepting it now. Try not to focus on it right now and in a few months from now you'll be feeling more content and accepting.

Having an emergency c section traumatised me. I found talking about it really helped me get over how I felt. It took me months to look at my body without crying before this.

I get what you are feeling I felt the exact same way and I’m 11wk PP now and although I still think about that day from time to time I try and remind myself that if I ever have a second child I can try for a vaginal birth and I remind myself that I am healthy and the baby is healthy and that’s all that matters ❤️ I also tell myself that my little girl doesn’t care if she came out vaginal or c section or if she is formula or bottle fed all that matters is her health because at the end of the day she’s not going to remember any of this when she’s older so try not to be to hard on yourself I know the pain trust me I use to cry about it a lot in the beginning but now I’m just grateful we are both here safe ☺️

I also had an emergency c section and for the first weeks I felt on one hand so grateful for their quick reaction (I had antepartum haemorrhage that wouldn’t stop so there was no choice & no time to waste), but at the same time I felt like I failed because I would have liked to experience a natural birth, specially a water birth. But like Lor says, it’s an emergency c section so you didn’t have a choice! Also, that feeling of wanting a natural birth I 100% understand and share, but I’ve come to realise part of that might be idealised, some friends have had really traumatic natural births, one even had a super difficult natural birth with prolapse and tears that ended in emergency c section… I think we have to accept that c sections are just another way of giving birth and that sometimes there’s just no choice. It’s super natural to feel what you’re feeling, but you’ve done amazing and it’s your safety and the baby’s safety what’s most important ❤️ give yourself time lovely… and CREDIT!🙌

I’m so sorry you are having these feelings. Know they are normal. I agree completely with everyone else but will just add this: your birth was a SUCCESS. You carried and nourished and grew your baby and they are PERFECT! Your baby is alive and you are healthy, which are the two most important outcomes ❤️ I’ve heard so many positive vbac stories and hope to hear able to share one of my own someday. Hang in there!

I had an elective section. In that I had no option but to have a section but as it was booked at a certain time it’s considered elective. My wee one was frank breech from 28 weeks and I had bad pre-eclampsia that resulted in 4 hospitalisations in 3 weeks. I was aiming for an ECV but had my 36 week growth scan and baby was still breech and doc felt the risks were too high to try a ECV so I was scheduled for a section the following week. I would have liked to have had him vaginally but it wasn’t to be and my main aim was getting baby here safe and me being here to look after him! He’s only 5 weeks but I would be keen to try VBAC if we decide to have another but know I’m a high risk of developing pre-eclampsia again so need to consider that when making the decision. Main thing is baby arrived safe, even if it wasn’t how you would have liked it!

I had the same experience, I’m 6 months pp and still pissed about it. My midwife broke my water too early, I wasn’t even 3cm dilated when she broke it.

Prayer for me. I prayed and prayed to be okay with it. To be proud of how my baby came and to be glad he was safe and healthy. I think around 10 months pp was when I was feeling okay about it. I got pregnant then and had a successful vbac at 19 months pp. it’s Def possible but I’d look at the bright side and pray about it and help just talk it though and just look at the good of what came out of it.

Thanks everyone! I’m really hoping one day I have less regrets and I can hopefully go for VBAC I really appreciate all your kind words it really does help when your feeling rubbish😅❤️x

I also had a c section after a failed induction and completely get your feelings. I keep saying to myself I’m going to try every trick in the book next time (if we’re lucky enough) to bring on labour naturally! My scar has taken 13 weeks to completely seal 😭Try not to be so hard on yourself about your body though 😣 you grew a whole human in there and you should be proud of it for that! There is nothing more untrue than what you’ve just said about being worthless, that’s not where worth comes from! Keep telling yourself how thankful you are for your body doing the job it did 😊

@Katie thank you🥹❤️ a c-section is so hard and definitely not “the easy way out” x