Can my step kids kiss my newborn?

So my partner picked my step kids up to come to the hospital as their bio mum found it too difficult to bring them, they were desperate to meet their sibling asap…so it might be worth seeing what they want as it could lead to tensions if they find out you didn’t want them there…mine only stayed 20 mins or so but they were very grateful…I personally found it helped with making that sibling bond. In terms of kissing, my SS still hasn’t and LO is now 6 weeks but my SD kissed him after 2 weeks or so, but we don’t let her kiss his lips or near his mouth and only if she is not ill or been ill within a few days, hope that helps

Id say no to kisses, germs and new born babies are not a good mix. I had my step son in the hospital on the day we had our son and if I could go back I would, I just felt very overwhelmed and wish it had been just my partner and I sharing the special moment because my partner had to share his attention between an 8 yr old and a new born and me in pain and very emotional. You may be different to me though but I'd say wait until you are home and settled and then have guests and family over x

My sd came to see my son after a week so I could get used to being a mum and having him around (my first baby) she's got 3 siblings at her bio mums house and her mum sends her to us even if they/her are ill and doesn't tell us. We sent her a picture when he was born though so she could see him. I'm having another csection for my daughter on 2nd and will be doing the same thing. I think it's important for my son (2yo) to get used to having his little sister around before his older sister comes too. We explained that because she's got siblings who get ill and so does she, that she can't kiss him on the lips until he was a bit older incase she unintentionally gives him anything. We have told her it will be the same for when her sisters born and she's absolutely fine with it.

I wouldn't let anyone kiss my baby

I was really worried about this and have just put my foot down that it’s a no. This caused some tensions with her dad at first but because it’s been a hard and fast rule with everyone that helped, it’s not like I’m singling my stepchild out. She is 6 so a similar age bracket and the amount of bugs that come from school is crazy. I have seen two stories in the past week on this app of newborns that have been hospitalised and can’t be with their mums because of bugs full siblings have brought home (full siblings are meant to be less dangerous due to newborn building their immunities from mum) that a child that has another households bugs on top of school is just too dangerous for me. I feel some guilt about it but I tell myself my child’s health is more important than anyone’s feelings

I would think about if it was your bio child- if you would let them kiss the baby, let them - if you wouldn’t- don’t. All very personal decisions.

@Jen I probably wouldn't but then again if they were my bio children then they would be living with me full time and it would make the scenario a little different...

My son came in the morning to meet our newborn and then SD came in the afternoon, both with dad, not with bio mum as that wouldn’t sit right with me. Kisses on forehead only is my rule. X