Does it make you super nervous when you have a delivery or maintenance worker come in your house and youre alone?

I don’t, actually I get overly excited because I’m alone with my boys so often that’s it’s nice to have an adult in the house. I usually make them a coffee and we talk about their families or something while they work. But I also live in a ridiculously safe neighborhood. Like literally nothing bad ever happens here. The worst crimes we have here are ppl breaking into other peoples cars and taking their shopping bags.

@Stacey 🇵🇸 that's nice. I've had 3 home break ins throughout my life in different places while I was sleeping. As well as SA. So I have a bit of trauma around being alone with men. We live in a safe place but I will never trust anyone that I'm alone with that's a stranger.

I'm often nervous/anxious whenever someone comes over to do a job. Not for the same reasons that you do, more because I'm socially awkward.

@Sarah🦄 I get that too. Like youre supposed to be doing something or make conversation 😅. And then pretend youre busy so they won't judge you for sitting around your OWN home lol.

I don’t just because everything is tracked and logged etc. if they were to do anything the company knows exactly who it was on the job etc

@Hollie some people go crazy and they don't care 🤷‍♀️. My friend was having their furniture delivered one time and the guy grabbed her crotch. He claimed it never happened and the boss claimed he didn't even work for them. And said the guy was just a helper that day. Nothing came of it because there was no proof.

I was home for a couple break ins too! But I was much younger, like when I was a kid. And I’m not close to that area anymore. Absolutely terrifying. It makes sense that you anxiety around that still. I time maybe because I was so young and nothing has happened since, I’m not really bothered by it now. I mean, I still remember stuff? But I don’t get as scared about it as I used to.

You literally never know, the people it always happens to “never imagine it’d be them/there”

It's funny I thinking about a career change and I said there's not enough female in the trades careers and I'm sure a lot of women would feel more comfortable with a female in their home.

@Anita one time our pest control person showed up and I opened the door and it was a goth female in a sleeveless black vest shirt and ripped skinny jeans with an Orkin hat on and I was like "THANK GOD!!" 🤣🤣🤣

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Yes I only scheduled them to come over when my husband is home

Wow where are you located? Seems very unsafe to live there…. Most workers are there to work and make money for their life. Not murder someone. They would be caught easily if they did this since they were scheduled to go there to work….

@Cassie I live in a very safe area in the upper peninsula of Michigan. However my past experiences happened in Seattle, and Bellingham WA. And my friends experience was in Florida. Yes i understand that. I think your forgetting g what trauma does to the body. The body doesnt forget. You can logically tell yourself your safe but you can't talk yourself out of that once you've had several bad experiences. It's very easy for someone who hasn't experienced that sort of trauma to just say "don't worry about it you're safe" when they've never experienced it before.

Understood. Therapy would probably help 💛

@Cassie ....... yes, thank you. I've been doing therapy for years. Maybe therapy for yourself as well. I don't think you're aware of how condescending/ insensitive you come off to others. It might help you.

Also because this happens a good amount, crimes when woman is alone at home shouldn’t we be more proactive with self defense imo like shouldn’t we be teaching our kids self defense at young age