SINGLE MOMS

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and he is started to meet my family. Just introduced him to my son recently. He has been dragging his feet to introduce me to his mom and just admitted it is due to the fact that I am a white mother to a white child while he is a black man. I am trying to be understanding and respectful to his feelings, I know they are valid but he can’t avoid it forever. (He lives with her currently) any advice on how to navigate this?

How has dating after a baby been for any of you? Did you guys wait until their baby turned a certain age to start dating? After having my son, everything I do is intentional so I do want to take my time with putting myself back out there.

I’m here looking for advice. While we were together, I was already carrying most of the responsibility, but now that I’m on my own with my kid, it feels lonely. I’m an expat and don’t have a support network or friends here, which makes it even harder.

Mostly just a venting post but I’m up for advice. Or if anyone has a similar story, I’d like to hear about it!

(Obvs I’m single by the title lol) - but for background/context: I’m 8 months pregnant, just a month ago me and my bd split. We had a toxic relationship on & off; if I’m being honest, i tried to leave him but I was emotionally dependent on him and I only tried for our son. Well, the last time we split, that’s when I found out I was pregnant and we decided to keep trying together. He cheated, again. And I could never trust him, I was always questioning everything he did and it always started a fight so that’s what led to our separation now.

Rewind to BEFORE we got back together for the last time - before I found out I was pregnant: I was texting another guy. I never met up with him but was planning to go on dates with him and start seeing him. He seemed interested but I was so iffy about what I wanted and how it would affect my son. My current son is about to be 2 y/o. Our plans never fell through because I’m so busy.. he knows I’m pregnant and expecting another soon. He still asks me how I’m doing and would still like to take me out sometime. Idk if it’s just me but it feels so weird to date while pregnant. He’s nice and a sweetheart; and idk if it’s the trauma but I feel scared to explain to him that I’d like to date him in the near future; just not right now while I’m pregnant and having to adjust to becoming a single mom who does it all on her own. I feel like he’d be angry about it or just brush me off. Not that he ever gave me signs or red flags but I think it’s the trauma from my ex. I also don’t want him to feel like a place holder, because he isn’t. I’m actually really interested in him. I really don’t want to introduce my son to him so early fresh after his dad left too, because my son has a great bond with his dad and is the only man I’ve ever had around him besides my own dad.. I want to wait to start dating him until I’m at least a few months postpartum because I know how it is to heal after having a baby. I feel like I need to be alone for a while. If I explain this to him, it shouldn’t be an issue right? And I understand he has every right to not want to date me either.. I just feel like I’ll always be alone and I do need that emotional support but at the same time he doesn’t need the burden of what another man has done and for the choices I’ve made to put myself in this situation. I’m also just scared he won’t take me serious or after he gets what he wants, he’ll leave..

Vent post 🥺

A little back story Ive been going through a divorce and now live with my parents with my 2yr old. I just started school and work full time as well. Well lately I've been considering going to school full time and working part time like 2 days on the weekends. My concern is that I won't have time with my 2yr old, I will be traveling and hr and half for school M-Th and work the weekends. How does one balance that? I feel so guilty that I will be spending all my focus on school. My parents are my biggest support system and I feel guilty that they have to step in and help me. I just wanna power through school and start a career. I'm just conflicted. Any advice is appreciated.