Vaginal birth after C section VBAC

I'm 34 weeks, had a c section with my first so the decision was taken out of my control really (failed induction after her growth slowed down). I'm really close to my due date but I'm terrified of a VBAC/vaginal delivery. I just don't trust my body and I know I'm going to need instrumental delivery or episiotomy or baby will get stuck. I hate the unknown. I've also had trouble bonding with this baby and I'm worried if I get complications or have a horrible birth then I will have awful feelings about it all and about the baby. Does anyone have any advice. I really really don't want another c section either as my recovery was awful last time.

If not what happened? Thanks

I told my doctor yesterday about wanting to try for a VBAC and she looked terrified given the fact I had preeclmapsia last pregnancy and baby was frank breech. Has anyone had pre eclampsia before and had a successful VBAC with next pregnancy? Also I'm terrified vaginal birth will be more painful than c section 🙃

My booking BMI was 31 but now I’m at 38 at only 25 weeks. I’m spiralling uncontrollably that I’m not going to get my VBAC due to my weight ☹️

I’m currently 36 weeks with my second and met with a consultant yesterday to discuss possible options - I am aiming for a VBAC and want to avoid another c-section at all costs. The consultant said to me yesterday ‘as you only progressed to 3cm dilated last time your chances of a successful VBAC are lower’ 😩 I found this really disheartening and it’s now planted a seed of doubt in my mind. I personally think everything went wrong when they intervened with an induction that hyper stimulated my body and hindered natural progress (leading to emergency section due to sepsis and babies heart rate dropping). However I’m now doubting whether my body is capable ☹️ has anyone had a similar first time experience and gone on to have a successful VBAC?