February 2020 Babies 🇺🇸

My son’s 5th bday is coming up and I am really anxious and sad about it. Long story short my kid has never been in daycare pre k or anything so he doesn’t have consistent friends like that. The only “friends” he really has are the children of the parents we (his dad and I) have tried to bond with the past few yrs since moving to a new state. Unfortunately some things happened this summer & we’ve had to distance ourselves from this group because of those incidences. Naturally that means our kids are not playing together anymore because we are not having play dates & house parties like we used to (5 couples, 9 children in total. Usually get together planned 4+x a month, let the kiddos play freely while we hang out)(we all live on the same street). Everyone else is still cool I suppose and it seems like my family is now the only one on the outside of the circle (which again was kinda my decision that I felt I needed to make for my own mental health.) I guess the part I am stuck at is I have like no kids to invite to his party and I know it’s going to break his heart😢 He is seeking connection badly and is constantly asking me for friends. I absolutely do not want to cave and invite this group. If anything I only want to invite 1 couple out of the 5 and that’s because my son actually bonds and plays with him the most (and they are the only adults I actually don’t have any issues with). Everyone else he only plays with becauseeeee of the adults hanging and now that it’s been months since I silently took a step back he doesn’t ask for them at all. Only that 1 kid. So wtf do I do. Hubby says all get invited or none. I stand my ground on f*** how that makes ppl feel, I just want to invite the one. Definitely don’t want my boy to be sad on his birthday because there’s practically no kids to play with at his party. I’m trying to protect our peace. I don’t want fake ppl around us. Am I in the wrong? Gosh I’m just so sad over this 🙁 ** Adding in that my own childhood trauma may be at play. I was a very lonely child who craved connection and attention and my childhood was hectic. Alcoholic neglectful abusive parents. Birthday parties were never for us. It was for them to get drunk and make them look good. So this is really big to me because I pour my heart and soul into my kids birthday parties to make sure they feel special. 😔 what would you do?

Can someone tell me how to get my 4 year old back into his bed. We have been cosleeping since October 2022 and I can’t do it anymore I am so tired I never have room in my own bed it is exhausting. He has told his dad and me if we rearrange the room he’ll sleep in it so we do and he still won’t we have tired night lights new bed everything that he says to do and still he is in our bed. I can’t be the only one struggling right now with this.

I feel like I’m behind schedule. What do you ladies do to start your 4 yr old doing chores? Chore charts? Sticker rewards? My daughter is very strong willed and honestly I’m scared 😅 I need her to be able to pick up her things and possibly more… am I hoping for too much??

I know I'm really late today but can everybody stop what they're doing and wish my princess a happy 4th birthday. She is sick with the flu and it would make her day tonight and tomorrow when she gets up. I love her so much and I still can't get over that I have a 4 year old now. She's growing up so fast. I wish she would stop growing on me 😭😭

My little sassy girl turns 4 in about 2 weeks… less then.. on February 6th! I can’t even believe it! She is my sour patch kid for sure! So full of sass and sweetness! 😅🤦🏻‍♀️ how are we all holding up!? What’s everyone’s doing for the birthday parties? 🥳 what theme? and when is yalls kids bdays🩵💜 Here is my little one getting over pneumonia 😢She’s happy having her pancakes 🥞( this was on Tuesday this week I was home with her💕)