I recently married a Muslim man( I’m Christian), and his family lives in West Africa—except for one brother and his wife, who are in the USA. On the day of our courthouse marriage, my husband asked me not to post any pictures until he had a chance to tell his parents about our upcoming Nikah. We also have two children outside of marriage. His family was excited when we had our first child, but no one, except for two family members, acknowledged our second child.
His family knows me well—I’ve spoken to his parents and siblings many times over FaceTime, phone calls, and texts. We dated for a year and were engaged for two years.
Eventually, my husband said he preferred I didn’t post about the wedding, but he understood I wanted to share the news, so he was okay with it. We have a similar social media circle, especially when it comes to his close friends and family, so I made the post about our marriage. However, after I shared it, everyone—his siblings and best friends—started calling him, asking why he hadn’t told them.
This upset him, and he even got frustrated when I asked why he was bothered by their questions. He ended up blaming me for posting the pictures. What surprised me, though, is that his parents didn’t reach out to congratulate or welcome me into the family, which made me wonder if he had even told them about our marriage in the first place.
Now, I’m wondering if I should reach out to my new mother-in-law or wait for her to contact me. What do you think?
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