Okay all, I’m making my first post. I’m 46 years old and voluntarily, happily Child-free. I’m from California but moved to Paris 1 year ago (yes, THAT Paris 🥐🇫🇷). My boyfriend of 6 years has 2 kids college age but I’ve never had the opportunity to really connect with them, so I still feel child-free.
- I was told I’m perimenopausal at 42 and I cried. All I could think of was the crappy symptoms I’ve heard about and how I did not want to have to deal with them. And honestly I just felt like I’d got a slap in the face with “girl you are officially old!” But I still feel like I’m in my 20’s sometimes!
So anyway, I know old is a construct and I confess the pandemic probably aged me from 20’s to 50’s but part of being here is to re-capture my younger self by hopefully meeting women who have navigated the change without letting it steal what’s left of their youth. Mentally, at least :-)
Why child-free? I was bullied, badly neglected and emotionally abused growing up so being around children triggers a lot of negative emotions for me. Plus, I love love LOVE my freedom. I travel a lot, enjoy eating out and music festivals, and have a rich social life. I can do whatever I want, any time. And the money I’ve saved from not having children can fund my crazy lifestyle.
Go out dancing at a club til 4am? Yes!
Impromptu ski trip to the alps? Oui!
Dinner at that hot new sushi spot with the 6-course omakase menu? Yum and count me in.
I definitely feel it’s getting harder to make new friends as I age (especially after a big move). My age group is trending toward child-rearing as a result of the pandemic, or biological clocks ticking. So it’s really great to find a group like this. 👋🏻
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