Mental Health Friendship Struggle

Hi everyone I am struggling with anxiety and depression I am healing from a partial knee dislocation injury and its been tough if there is anyone who can be supportive or talk about it with me I would appreciate it

I’m in my early 30s and have an 8-month-old baby. From the outside, my relationship probably looked like two people who were connected and in love, but in reality, we spent over three years dealing with misunderstandings and conflicts.

We planned for our baby for a year, so he was very much wanted, but the pregnancy was up and down, and since having the baby it has been a real rollercoaster of emotions, rejection and anxiety. I still struggle to feel connected to my baby, which makes me feel guilty, and the relationship with his dad ended a few months after the birth when he said we were incompatible. I completely agree now.

We still spend 24/7 around each other, which is incredibly difficult. Sometimes I feel like I’ve started to hate him.

I also have ADHD and dyslexia, which can make everything feel even more overwhelming, especially when I’m already exhausted. On top of being a mum, I’m also a student, so I constantly have university work and responsibilities to deal with. I feel like I have absolutely no time for myself or any real chance to switch off and recover.

I feel very alone and constantly stressed and low, and lately I’ve been wondering whether I might be experiencing postnatal depression.

I’m sharing this because I’m hoping to hear from other mums who may have experienced something similar. Did anyone else struggle to connect with their baby, feel completely overwhelmed, or feel like they had completely lost themselves after becoming a mum? ❤️

I've been feeling really depressed

So my husband and I have a mutual friend who moved out of state. He asked me if I've reached out to her lately, and when I said no, he wanted to know why I'm acting like I don't know her or don't mess with her anymore.

My response? A phone works both ways.

When she first moved, I called and texted her a few times. No answer. No callback. No text back. At what point am I supposed to stop reaching out? I'm not about to keep chasing anyone to maintain a friendship. I have my own life, responsibilities, and things going on too.

Then I asked him if they've been talking, and he said "here and there," but then admitted he hasn't really talked to her since the beginning of May. Now I'm confused. Why is yall freely in contact with each other and I’m not in the know but I’m the one being questioned?

Maybe I'm missing something, but friendships are a two-way street. If someone wants to keep in touch, they can pick up the phone too. I'm not mad at anybody, but I'm also not begging anyone to stay connected to me.

But I now have questions… yall go something going on behind my back cause that strange and weird asf?  Now all of a sudden you want to reach out to her today, like what’s really good? 

Am I wrong for feeling this way? Or am I reading more into this than I should. I genuinely don’t know how to feel. I just want to cry and scream. This shit is fucking with my mental.

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