Rough times

This past year has been a very tough year for me. I lost my dog of 13 years first. Then my dad had 2 heart attacks and is still recovering almost a year later. He can have another one. He's on this medicine for the rest of his life. I'm so worried I'm going to lose him. Then a few months ago I lost my baby. Which I still have trouble getting over. I have really bad anxiety and had an anxiety attack about it just a couple days ago. I live in total fear that if I get pregnant again I will lose the baby again. I also have a new irrational fear of losing my 3 year old son. I am so terrified I could lose him too. Do any of you have that problem after a miscarriage? And to top it all off my husband and I have been having issues. Last night he pretty much told me I'm not a good enough mom or wife and that I'm lazy. He says our son doesn't talk alot because I'm not a good enough mom. That I don't spend time with him. But tbh all of my day is put into being a mother and wife. I never get anytime to myself. Can't even take a 5 min shower without interruption and my husband telling me he doesn't want to keep an I on our son. He doesn't spend any time with him at all or me for that matter. And he said I'm the one who isn't good enough. Because the house isn't squeaky clean. And I don't cook a ton. Why are mother expected to be super human but men aren't. Why are we expected to help everyone, drive everyone around, clean, cook, parent, and teach our kids school work , and also find a job all at the same time.

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Stubborn husband

Hi! I’m a new mum to a 5 week old baby boy and there is zero routine!
My husband is so good at helping me despite being at work full time. He still does at-least 50% of the housework and cooking and gets up once in the night to feed the baby.
I do the other 50% and then look after the baby during the day and do all bar the 1 night feed.
Whenever I get overwhelmed my husband steps in and will take the baby - however, whenever he’s clearly overwhelmed he will not give me the baby!
Last night for example, the baby woke up at 4:30, my husband got him back to sleep, 35 mins later he woke up, my husband insisted it was his turn so went to put him back to bed, he got him back to sleep at 6, put the baby back in bed and he started to wake up straight away - each time he came back in the room I could just tell he was getting more stressed out but he would not take my offer to swap, despite the fact he needed to be up and getting ready for work by 7:30 and had been up settling him for over 2 hours.
I think he just wants to do an amazing job, which is lovely, but how do i make sure he’s willing to accept my help? Did anyone else’s husband/partner react to having a newborn like this?
He massively struggles with change and has dealt with depression previously so I worry about how having a newborn who is so unpredictable is effecting him.
Tia x

Starting food

My baby is going to be 6 months on the first of April any tips on how to start weening

Husband things it's only HIS money.

Hello. I have one question. I am SAHM and my husband works earning around £4000 a month after tax. He gives me £600 every month to cover groceries and household items which normaly cost around £500 or £550. We have two children aged 5 years and 10 months. So nothing much left for my personal spending without me going back to him and asking him for more money, which is most of the time met with lots of questions and me feeling like a child asking a parent for pocket money. Like I need to be scared to buy anything without him judging me. I do not have access to his bank account and therefore to any family funds what we hold. So I am just asking if this is a normal standard situation for SAHMs or should I demand joint access to his accounts and equal right to spend? Obviouly with common sense. Every big purchase would need to be discussed. But me for example wanting to buy new clothes or in need of personal items without me going to him asking for "permission". What should I do? His opinion is that he works and it is his money. So what about me? Am I not doing enough don't deserve to feel like an equal partner? Don't I have any rights? How are you handling finances as SAHM ?

Baby dad destroying my things

I was done with him a few weeks ago he doesn’t see his child apart from maybe 1 hour on a Sunday occasionally he just demands everything back he ever got me the whole 4 years I knew him or pay him back all he got me was some clothes and a 1.2k car which I need to transport our daughter around
I said I’ll pay you back if you really need it )he doesn’t he makes 4 k months) everything else he ever got me was destroyed long ago after any argument we had by him

He said fine I’m not giving you any money for our child till you repay me 4k ) I am on universal credit and get 800 to live on)
Like that money is for our child… not me he’s so selfish
Anyway I work up today he came in the night to slash all my tyres and cut the battery off..
So i now have no car to take me daughter to appointments and nursery.
He’s so so selfish and evil I asked him why he did that he said it’s my car fuck you

Starting solids opinions

Is anyone else struggling with the amount of comments and getting told what we should do for starting solids? my baby is 5 months and iv been getting told to feed him at 4 months. Everytime people visit now it’s “have you fed him yet” or “he needs food” I honestly think i’m going to stop visitors for a whole months

Refusing solid foods

My 7 months old is not eating the solid foods I give him, he spits out everything. It's frustrating so I just stopped trying when he was still 6 months. Any suggestions I'm tired honestly.