When's best to have a second baby?

This is a decision you have to make for you. Don’t let anyone influence you into anything you aren’t ready to do, especially when you know there is limited help. After making that decision there is no turning back so take your time & don’t be persuaded into it until you are 100% certain it is what you want & that you are ready regardless of limited help & any other challenges that may come your way

The best time is whenever YOU feel ready. I personally have 2 daughters ages 4 and 1 and they are obsessed with each other, but I was ready and wanted more. Do what is best for you and your family girl 😊

When you feel ready to, and not a second before.

you have to decide what the right time is for you! no one else can make the choice. you may never feel ready to have another. we have a 5 year gap in our boys.
i was an only child and wouldn’t change my childhood for anything.

Definitely when you are ready, since you will be the one now responsible for 1 already plus a baby. As for when is a good time if you already feel ready , I would suggest when the first is out of diapers and can self entertain pretty well . I just had my daughter and my son is 3. We did potty training while I was pregnant and mastered it , and since he’s an only child and we don’t live near any family or have friends he plays really well by himself!

After talking to a lot of people we are thinking on trying to have another one born around the time my first turns 4.
From everyone I've heard it just seems right, it's a good space. Close enough they can get along decently but also have their own school/high school and college experiences.

I think there’s pros and cons either way you go! I think you’ll know when you’re ready, or you’ll just up and get pregnant and have to be ready 😆 (this was me for our third haha) but each one has been such a blessing regardless!

If you feel as though you are not ready then don't do it

Never! Lol hi

I would say for me was when my oldest was more independent… we waited 10 years for each baby, right now I’m expecting my third baby and the oldest are 20 and 10 years old and they enjoy the fact they will have a baby sister. I don’t judge but I can’t imagine how hard it is to take care of two babies, I like to give my babies full attention And I think that when you have them too close you are too tired or busy to make time for each one. I like my babies to feel unique but that’s me :)

No one can tell when it right only you abs your husband will know. If we’re being real is the time ever right??!! LOL!! I have 4 and I can tell you that none of them were planned but they all came at the right time and there just more love!!! Good luck to you in your journey and trust yourself and your relationship!!! Sending wonderful vibes!!!

I’m not a mum yet, but I’ll say that I’m really close to my sister now, 2 year gap, but we always were in competition growing up which did impact our relationship, with our parents as well as each other. My partner and his brother are a 4 year gap and they’re really close, they weren’t always (ie teen years), but they never had the competition thing. So there is no fixed ideal gap

A friend of mine has just had her second baby but is also just starting to potty train her two year old, which sounds like an actual nightmare to me 😅

Either way it can completely vary from person to person / family to family. Do what you want, wait until you’re ready. But also if you decide you only want one baby that’s a perfectly legit decision too! My oldest friend is an only child, and she’s basically just another sister to me. So don’t worry about your baba, she’ll get close friends who are her chosen sisters

I think you should do what makes you happy ! Sometimes being the only child is a good thing . There is always friends and family . I think if you want a second child you will know when you’re ready for that ❤️

I wish I knew! My son is 8 and I’m scared to have another child now

I’m in the same boat as you . I have a partner but he works away for months at a time . I’m thinking when my toddler is 3 to try and become pregnant. He’s not 2 yet and he’s a handful just him on his own .

It's completely when you feel ready, I don't think there's the "right" answers... I do feel you tho! No family to help around with 2 kids. Currently I'm expecting my 2nd one and my son is 3,5yo and I feel he can help around a bit. Do what feels right for you 😊

We found out we were pregnant with our second boy literally when our first was turning 1! He was not planned but it worked out amazing! Seeing them grow up together and develop their own personalities, it’s beyond heartwarming! I say, if it happens then it happens but no rush. Whatever you feel is right!

My kids are 17 months apart and are fairly good friends. They fight sometimes but they learn a lot from each other so it is nice. First off this is your decision and everyone else has no right. Secondly, it is so much easier when you have help. You mentioned you dont have help, no husband or boyfriend involved? If that is the case then I wouldn't bother having another kid as a single mom. Again, your decision.

Happy mama is the best thing, and you absolutely have plenty of time if you do decide you want another. If you have a kid when your daughter’s 6 or 8 or 10 or 12 that will still be their sibling. I think it’s really unfair for people to put that pressure on you. But kids don’t need siblings, only kids are wonderful, and the only reason to have another kid is if *you* want one and feel ready.

It’s honestly up to you and your partner. No one else gets to choose.

I’d like to point out s few things though,
1. Your daughter is not growing up “alone”. I honestly hate seeing parents say this because the child has you, their parents, as well as friends and school and other activities where they socialize.
2. Children are not pets. We shouldn’t make decisions like having another kid because “oh my kid is lonely” or “your baby isn’t a baby anymore, have another.” This comment is directed to the people pressuring you to have another, not you.
3. If you think you can’t handle 2 on your own then that’s s clear sign that you should wait more or not have another. We all have our limits and if you feel you’d struggle then don’t do it. Your mental health matters too.

I personally am waiting til my son is about 4 before having another because he’s a handful right now. I’d like to potty train, get him started in school and sports/music before having another baby.

Thank you all for the advice, I'll wait for my heart to ask for another baby, I feel pressured but I'll manage to get around this situation. my husband lives with me of course, and he helps me a lot, I have nothing to complain about, but he spends the day working, when I talk about not having help it's from family members... it's just me and my little girl... but you guys are right at the right time that's when I felt comfortable... ❤ I appreciate.

I’m 11 weeks pregnant with our second and my first is 4m, I don’t know if there’s every really a ‘right time’ for a baby (probably not my case it’s abit close together 😂)

I don't believe there is an exact best time. It gets easier to have another baby when your firstborn is older and more independent. But you can have your baby whenever you feel ready

Do you personally want another baby? If you don't feel like you're ready, emotionally or financially why have another now? I have one daughter and completely happy with just her. She is spoiled at her day home and she is spoiled at home. Don't make people think you HAVE to have another baby because that's how they feel. It's your body and your life, do what will make you happy. Personally I would rather be happy with my one baby in my relationship then have another and put strain on it. (Currently going through tantrum hell and its been a scary time on my relationship) lol

I'm four years apart from my sister and we are best friends. And when I was a baby she loved being the older sister and helping out with me.

have whatever age gap you want. Your body, your kids, your choice. There is no right or wrong age gap. They all have their pros and cons x

Don’t let anyone pressure you into having another baby. People can be so insensitive and most likely aren’t thinking when they ask these questions.

I got pregnant with my 2nd when my 1st was 7 months old. There is a 16 month gap between them and now I wouldn’t change it for the world but I won’t lie it was difficult having a newborn and a toddler going through the tantrum stage.

Go at your own pace, nobody else has to take care of your children so they don’t get a say in how many you have or when you have them!

I think that completely up to you and your SO. My fiance and I have decided, we won't even think about another kid until our first is out of diapers. It seemed like a good time to wait and then after that decide if we even want another baby. We are pretty happy with the little girl we have now.

I had my baby a month ago and I’m already being pressured to have a 2nd in the future as ‘you won’t want an only child’ 😳 like maybe I don’t want another or I don’t see them going through the labour or paying for childcare etc, it’s defo not on my mind now anyway. That should be a decision for you and your partner only.

I have a 2 year old and just have birth to my 2nd in all honesty I wish I waited another year so they were 3 years apart not 2 it's good in the long run coz they will be close in age but dealing with a newborn and a 2 year old is very hard. Obviously I love my kids but yeah whenever your ready don't rush into it.

I wouldn’t rush into it, I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant with my second I have a 2.5 year old. This pregnancy has been so hard and the mum guilt I have felt with not being able to do everything with my little boy has been horrendous. Im excited to meet our new arrival but I think If we had waited a little longer then it would of been abit easier than what it has been x

I had baby no 2, 15 weeks ago, and my son was 4!
I never wanted another baby, but lockdown made me realise the reality of my son being an only child and also him being home made me realise I wasn't done with having baby's!!
I don't get any help at all and my hubby works 6 / 7 day weeks!
The moment I brought her home my son was completely besotted by her!
It is hard..no two ways about it, it's hard, there's days I had to choose a child to feed first, who to tend to when they both, and me as a mam just I have 0 time ATM for myself.

The good thing about 2nd time around is.... Ur a little more confident, u don't take as much of the stress to heart, and u understand that baby's cry sometimes and that's ok!! And also 4yrs can be little monkeys too 😂😂
Honestly I kinda wanted another one, I've had another one , and it's the best choice I ever made!! It's hard... But it don't last forever! Xx

Whenever you feel like you’re ready. At the end of the day their your babies that you’ll be responsible for. If you’re prepared both mentally and financially I’d say go for it!