I vote no epidural! And i was able to have a successful labor without one :) my labor was so quick and easy from the time we checked into the hospital I was at 5cm and 3 and a half hours later I had my son with only 40min of pushing (apparently that’s unheard of for a first time mom). Had I had an epidural I don’t think i would have known when to push as the doctor is really reliant on the monitor to see your contractions..well the monitor I was on was delayed and wrong! There are just so many things that could go wrong with an epidural and that’s why I didn’t want it, but keep your options open. I was lucky my labor was quick, but ha do had a long active labor over 24 hours I know I would have gotten it. I do recommend looking into hiring a doula as she was a lifesaver. You can find affordable ones on doulamatch.com. Drink raspberry tea and take primrose oil in your third trimester, I believe this was what helped me stay home and labor until I reached 5cm with relatively no pain. And stay active!!! :)
I wasnt going to get an epidural because I knew it could slow labor and I didnt want to be stuck in bed. But I labored for 3 days; contractions every 3-12 minutes before I finally reached 4.5 cm and got admited. I was so tired, I had slept maybe 4 hours in that time. I got the epidural as soon as I got to my room and it was wonderful. Sometimes I do regret it though. I wonder if she would have come faster; I got the epidural at 11pm and had her at 10 am. I wonder if I wouldn't have had to push for an hour and a half; but I had a terrible nurse that kept doing computer work between pushes. I wonder if she wouldn't have had so many scares with her heart rate. And then we were both feverish after and I wonder if that would have happened if I had gone without the epidural. I'll never know but there are risks. Thankfully I have no back pain from it and my baby is very healthy!
With my first daughter I had epidural and after it was hard to bounce back from the back pain I still have it now. I needed 5 stiches but I think thats bcuz not feeling anything was hard for me to tell how much to push and how hard.
With my second I didnt do the epidural and it sucked as far as pain but it wasn't to bad after no stiches.
I would keep the epidural in play just in case the pain is to much just be sure to ask your doctor to tell you when would be the last chance to get it.
Just be open minded for anything! Every single birth is completely different and you could go in with an idea of how you expect it to go and things can change very quickly, if you do your research on every option then you’ll be confident to make the best decision in the moment
My sister , although a labor nurse, hates seeing me in pain. At first she supported my decision of going natural. She got scared seeing me in so much pain at home so she pushed me to go the the hospital earlier than I wanted to and convinced my bf to take me. When I got to the hospital I wasn’t dilated enough and had to go back home or they told me I could stay but I won’t be admitted. We went home. Then 2 hrs later came back and I got admitted. Again I had my sister and my bf in my ear telling me to take the epidural. that my body couldn’t do it. said my labor is too long and that if I did maybe I can be more dilated and relax. I took it. Then hrs later i was failing to progress during labor. The baby’s heart rate was going down and there was risk of baby being born with brain injury. I ended having a c -section. He is 7 weeks old and every day I think to myself if I just listened to my body maybe I would have had a better labor. Don’t let any1 tell u what to do. It’s your labor!
That’s the worst. I’m so sorry you didn’t have the support you needed!
Next time , god willing , it will be so different... lesson learned. And I done so much research since then.
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