How strict are you with your nursery theme?

No, I wouldn’t use them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think if it were just like a Winnie the Pooh pillow or bed sheets sure, but curtains …. No. Too big of a clash with the rest of the theme. The gift giver should have asked you the theme first honestly before buying those for you.

I admire that you said openly “no thanks” 🤣 I always feel like I need to come across as grateful for anything but in reality as long as you are being polite it’s better to get something you will use than something that will go to waste!

Yeah it would have been much more rude to accept them and not use them

I think if you wanted to spare feelings you could have sold or given them away but he would have known you hadn't put them up if he visited so probably honesty is better! I don't think there's a lot of point to keeping something you are not going to use when there's other people that could make use of it if it was returned. Tbh, there's no nice way of saying to someone thanks for the gift but no thanks, feelings will always be hurt 🤷🏼‍♀️

I told my husbands auntie I already had a cot mobile when I didn’t as I knew she would choose a garish one I wouldn’t like 🙈🙈 then got my brothers gf to choose one as I like her taste better 😂 Honestly don’t know why someone would buy something like curtains that have such a big impact in the room without asking. Also by the sounds of it you were polite about it so I don’t see the issue.

Curtains no, they’re too big a feature or the room, and more permanent than say bedsheets or something. It’s kind of him but he should’ve asked first

I was ready to say I would have unmatching until I read it was curtains. Who buys someone curtains? I started off as winnie the pooh theme, then added some dumbo and now I've dinosaurs too 🤣

Very strict! I mean if someone bought something small like a cushion I’d get it out if they came over but curtains! How did he even know which size to get?! Good on you for telling him! X

Honestly, not very😅 I was heavily pregnant when I moved from a flat to a house. As it was a newly built house, all the walls are white (still are 2 years on😳) I was just too big & uncomfortable to get them painted. My daughters room was just bland, with only her name as decoration. Since then I have just stuck pictures on the wall & just chosen storage boxes that is in a theme of what she likes (unicorns). I figure that once my daughter is old enough to tell me how she'd like her room to be decorated, then I'll go all out & make it as much to her liking as I can.

We had a couple things given to us that didn’t match ours and I said no lol. Well not to the persons face but I didn’t put them up.

I wouldn’t keep them. Like if someone bought me some ugly furniture I’d tell them it doesn’t match my home so why accept it just cuz it’s for my son 🤷🏻‍♀️

Little things yes like our nursery is Mickey and Minnie themed but we have a born in 2020 ornament with an elephant on it 🤷🏻‍♀️ but curtains no chance that’s a bit item and wouldn’t match

I had this with a baby mat and ended up lying saying it broke. It was too small and I couldn’t put lights around it like I wanted due to the design. But I did take toys from it and add it to the Matt I wanted. It was from my MIL and my husband totally understood. I wish she would ask but she just doesn’t…

I would not, I am very particular & my lb’s theme is safari, if someone bought me wtp curtains I would have just kept them in the cupboard & said it will go up later. My MIL bought me a dockatot after I specifically said no, I am using the one my late mother got us. That dockatot was probably used a handful of times, waste of money.

I wouldn’t hang them, but I wouldn’t turn away a gift that someone purchased.
You take the curtains, you return them and get something you can use.

I think it’s kinda annoying as I think I’d rather go decor for kids room myself so I’d go change them for something neutral that will last longer than WTP.

My 3yr old daughter has a playroom, I stuck decals on the walls, She’s now ripped them off n drawn all over the walls everything gets sticky n trashed. My hubby won’t let me spend money on it as just no point, as long as clean n functional. Her bedroom is cosy tho, plain white with pink curtains pink rug and a few pictures. No toys in there just a bookshelf n wardrobe. As long as she’s got her teddies n a pink duvet she’s happy….. for now lol! They change minds what they like so much just keep it simple.

I've been strict so far and I've told all our family that it's jungle themed but most have asked exactly what I want for it or given us money to get what we want.
I wouldn't put them up either 🙈

It’s very kind of people to buy things but difficult if you’re not keen. Personally whenever anyone buys something I don’t like I just say thank you, that’s really kind. I then exchange them if I can or give them to charity.

Yeah I think that’s doing too much. I used to be like that but laid back a lot as he got older into toddler stage. Some moms don’t really lay back about it as they get older and that’s fine it’s not really a big deal, that’s just how I was about it.

No so his theme to start with his blue and grey and we are going into Dino theme slowly decorating it so anything that doesn’t match no I wouldn’t use it .

But I have lists so everyone asks me before they buy anything like that cause they all know how I am with my colours and themes and decorating

Honestly i would not use. It is thoughtful but getting something decorative for the nursery should only be based off the registry… normally i think it becomes pretty obvious what theme parents want when you look through it. If its from
Your brother in law i would think he already knew the theme anyway from talking to you and your husband too.

I actually find it very strange someone bought you curtains 😅😅 Fair enough toys and blankets but buying curtains you would expect them to ask you… totally agree with you as I wouldn’t put them up. Xx

I find curtains for someone else's baby's nursery a really weird gift 😅🤣.

The gesture is nice but yeah I would maybe explain that a voucher is better or that you ate going for whatever theme look for the room bit you appreciate the thought etc.

What an odd gift. I would never think to buy someone curtains?! Would politely decline or see if cab swap them for something to match the theme (if you're happy to change your curtains).

I think it would bother my partner much more than it would bother me x

In general I’d say I’d allow all presents because you can’t expect people to know your themes! However…. Curtains!?! That is very bizarre. I’d never buy someone curtains as that is a very particular personal choice- you’re well within your rights to say what you said! That’s acceptable given that curtains and furnishings would be the choice of the parents!

No I wouldn't use it if it didn't match. Someone bought us a cot mobile and I kindly told them I didn't like it and it didn't go with the room and they were fine about it. I personally wouldn't buy something for someone's nursery anyway without asking first. My husband certainly wouldn't get mad about it and the cot mobile was actually a gift from one of his sisters 😂

Hell no, personally I wouldn’t expect anyone to be buying furniture for babies nursery and it would also annoy me if anyone tried to! So they should understand that you politely told them thanks but no thanks!

I'd regift them