Let’s talk about loneliness…

Very lonely and feel like an outsider

I feel so disconnected . I want to make new friends but then I can’t help but withdrawal .

I feel lonely a lot. But I sm scared to admit it and feel too much when I try to interact.

Always feel some form of loneliness, anxiety makes it worse. I want to meet new people but terrified at the same time.

That is 100% facts

I also find it hard to connect… used to be so easy but it s been really hard for couple of years… friends come and go but the connection part is missing

Always lonely and don’t spend much time with my partner, I have no friends at all or family so I’ve not really had anyone to talk to whilst being pregnant and the only things I look forward to are getting my hair and nails done because I feel like rubbish most days xxxx

I really want friends, I want to go out and have a nice time, at the same time I want to stay in because it's overwhelming

I’ve felt lonely my whole life. I have anxiety going to places with new faces and I have a weird jealous feeling when my friends make new friends I hope I can change or grow out of that after having a baby

I feel lonely a lot, I see other people enjoying life with their inner circles, husbands, partner and/or kids and feel like I am on the sidelines or a wallflower at prom. It feels like my fault because I have difficulties connecting with people or keeping the connection. 😢
I have difficulties holding onto conversation and tend to shit down. Most times I feel like it is my fault for being like this and I don’t know why.

I went from having a circle of friends before getting pregnant, to having a few when she was born to having one solid friend as a Mom. That friend lives across the country, and COVID has made it so hard to reach out or meet up with anyone. I'm tired of accepting judgemental and toxic friendships because I'm desperate for any kind of socialization.

I always feel lonely and end up throwing and volunteering myself into things that keep me out the house. I think it’s one of those things when you have a child your friends go distant and assume your schedule will be all about your child. That’s what I found.

I have felt like this for some time covid hasn't helped and I have left places of work and lost touch with people or feel because they don't work with you they can't catch up ! I want to meet new friends and spend time getting to know people and doing stuff !

I am a mom of 6... expecting #7 in a high risk pregnancy. My kids are 11-22.... all into their own stuff. My man works a lot and has his family & friends. I'm used to working and being out & about... now I can't work atm.. I don't really have friends. My mom is 900 miles away. I suffer from major depressive disorder recurrent, anxiety, and ptsd. I have ppl I speak to here and there but I'm really alone most of the time. I don't even feel up to doing the things I love to do these days.

I am feeling the same as all of you. As my kids get older I find it hard to make friends. I feel it hard to connect with people, hubby and my kids. Most of the time I sit alone and feels my time on earth is not needed. I wish I was happier.

Ive always found it hard to connect people always leave so find it hard to stay in contact as seems if i never message noone else ever does.
Doesnt help most places i serm to go recently o feel to old to hang with the youngue ones but to youngue to hang with the mams.

Trying to get used to being lonely. My husband is not lovey dovey, I lost a lot of friends after having the baby. The friends who said they would be by my side no longer visit. I have no family in town, and my in-laws are not always available. I have been trying to do things by myself such as going for walks or going out to eat. But it just opens my eyes more when I'm alone and lonely. I just bought a Kindle and I'm going to try and start reading books to distract myself

Yes this is true

I never had a female friend and now that I'm getting older I feel as though I'm becoming a bit desperate for one. As a mom of two, I feel like I'm living in a constant time loop. Repeating the same things over and over again. I envy those who are out with their best friends because I definitely can't relate.

It's so hard when you have kids.
Like you want to have friends but I feel people with other kids don't really have time.. but at th3 same time parents feel very lonely

My whole life I have always had the feeling of loneliness following me even as a child. Now I know it's related to me being autistic as well as a my childhood trauma. But it sucks because being a adult trying to make friends is hard enough through in my childhood trauma and anxiety issues it gets even harder.

I have a hard time trusting people but full transparancy i have a hard time trusting myself... I desperately wish i had a clpse friend nearby..as all my current friends and family are long distance... but i dont trust myself to committ... one minute i want a friend ... then i feel overwhelmed with obligation and dont want to worry about trying to fit someone in to my hectic schedule. I have a billion obligations already tryin to remodel a home 2 kids (a toddler and a newborn) work full time but currently on mat leave... my fiance owns a business that has been nothing but stress so hes barely present or doesnt have time or energy to do anything.. and we also own a camp property that still needs work done to it.... all of this to do and i just feel overwhelmed with lonliness trying to manage it all . I think i worry about being judged by others therefore i dont try to make new friends or I find reasons they wont fit... but i joined this app in hopes of overcoming that bc the lonliness is not improving..

It's hard being in a new area Colchester there's hardly any people to befriend

Pre baby I had already lost contact with a lot of my friends which didn’t bother me that much but since becoming a mum and being on maternity leave I’ve realised how lonely it can be!

I want to have someone to go out for coffee and play dates with as I see a lot of people on my Facebook that have their mum groups, it just seems to be so hard to make friends as you get older 😩

Being the first to have a child out of my friendship group definitely made me feel really lonely. As a friendship group we struggled to relate to the differences in each of our own life stages. Lockdown and working from home has made that even worse.
I own my own business which I am proud of and love but being alone all day makes it worse, I have been considering packing it in and finding a job purely for company. Trying this app before I get to that point.

I was so lonely until I joined this app actually. It has helped me in getting out of the house and meeting up with different people and their children :) it’s just been so fun and I am definitely grateful for Peanut app! I am even hosting a park play date meet up next week :)

It gets so hard to make friends now a days especially as a female who don’t have kids. I use to go out and have fun and doing girls trip with my girlfriends until they all started having kids. I mean I get being a mom requires to put your child first but majority of the time mamas don’t have that much free time like that or it’s limited.

Making friends as an adult is just impossible. I’m a transplant my city and have made no friends in15 years. I managed to meet my husband through online dating.

Seems like even on here no one really is looking to make friends. Just play dates because everyone already has a friend group.

Lonely doesn’t begin to cover what I’m experiencing.

I feel like it’s always been me against the world. I’m the eldest of 3. Dad was home maybe 10 days a year and mom worked a split shift, so she wasn’t home until after dinner. I was “babysitting” my siblings by the time I was 10. I was babysitting the neighbours kids by 12. I became a leader. The one who had the plan. I was my graduating class president. But I never had many friends. We had a small group of 6 (3m, 3f) from grade 9-11. But that fell apart. I married my high school sweetheart and got my heart broken a month before our first anniversary. I now have my 2 boys. And they are my world. But I don’t have anyone who’s really there for me. I have my mom, kinda. Though I wouldn’t say she’s very supportive. I have my sister, but she’s waaaay too immature. Im trying to make mom friends, but any attempt I make, I just get played for a fool. Plans canceled yet again. So I sit in my house about to go back to work from my maternity leave and I wonder if I will always feel this lonely…

I feel so dead alone, i need a friend who i can share my loneliness with

I've been feeling so alone for so long

Same here it's sooo hard being a parent and little ones who rely on us that we don't have time for ourselves and our needs

My social anxiety keeps me from talking to anyone and it’s been very hard to make friends because of it. Don’t really have friends who have kids so they’re always out partying and stuff , and my life is not about that. Finding someone with your same interests can be hard

Being a caregiver for an elderly parent isolates you from so much.. then came the lock down and my part year tax job shut down just as tax year 2020 was starting. I've had 4 or weeks of work in 2020 other than that I have been locked in since my fathers stroke in 2019. Its had not to resent my siblings esp while they post all their vacations and outings so I stopped trying to. I've found a connection with another devoted daughter here so far.. And I'm grateful.

I was my company’s first remote employee and I have been working full time from home since 2010. This has been great for being able to be there for my kids, but now I only have one kid left at home and she’s in high school. My husband is a restaurant manager so his schedule is pretty crazy and I spend all day alone and most evenings and weekends alone as well. I have been isolated for so long now, I feel like I forgot how to make friends. I’m hoping this app can help me.

I just feel so weird making new friends. Trying to find cool people that understand you is hard. I just don’t want any friends I need family. It’s just my daughter, her dad, and I. So, I’m here to rip the band aid off. And put myself out there especially for my daughter

I cried today because my hair was greasy, and I had to wash it. Mom of three, and sleep deprived!

I cry all the time day and night I can't even sleep at night now since I'm having a hard time and have been for months almost years

I’m pregnant and work in a male dominated field. I felt like I didn’t belong before I was pregnant, but now people look at me like a dog walking on its hind legs and make judgemental/inappropriate comments. My family is thousands of miles away and I’m going through this pregnancy alone. Despite asking for support in writing to my family members, I have received little feedback 😔. Mix in a splash of depression and anxiety and it gets me down in the dumps sometimes. It all adds up and weighs on me, even though I put on a strong front and get through the day because I have to.

I found it hard to make friends in school as I was really shy and bullied a lot.
I did have a few friends who went to the same high school as me.
I found it easier to make friends in college as a friend helped me to come out of my shell.

I feel same 😔

Yes it is

I sometime feel lonely. As being a mom there's not to many people that my age that have kids.

I cried today because I realized my best friend isn’t my best friend anymore. She never shows up, doesn’t go to any of my kids birthday parties, nor mine, never responds. I need new friends, but it feels so hard and like such a stretch to actually find them. But I think I’m ready.

I am struggling to meet people at 39. Sadly lost contact with female friends in the last few years and now in a new relationship but finding it hard not having female company to find connections and now feel alone and unable to be myself around people.

I’ve just split up with my partner of 9 years and the loneliness and the quiet is the hardest thing. I’m really struggling rn

Totally understand - I’m 37 nearly and it’s tough going meeting new people.

Reason
Season
Lifetime.

Usually we met friends easily because we had a reason - starting nursery or school, or we had college friends that we were especially close with during our course, or work friends whilst we worked at a certain place.

But lifetime friends? Not many become lifetime friends. It’s tough. By the age of 40 it’s almost expected however that you’ve got a knot of friends and it’s so wrong as life isn’t like that. X

I find it hard to find friends especially since I moved away from my hometown and the only friend that I have here does not have a child so it is very hard to hang out 

being single and pregnant can feel really lonely and I’m finding it hard! 34+5 now and can’t wait to meet baby but I can’t help but feel jealous of all the happy couples who’ve got it absolutely made and they don’t know it. scared I’ll never meet anyone now, none of my close friends have children so they don’t really understand.

feel like loneliness is the only emotion im ever feeling nowadays, just having no friends or anyone to speak to snd being stuck home all day is getting really tough on me. no matter how many times you try to look on the bright side or remind yourself that baby makes it worth it, it doesn't always help 🤧