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Aww yes this parenting stuff is hard! Keep your head up! In my humble opinion: Reconcile with him first. Validate his feelings of fear with presenting and also sharing details about himself with a group of people. Maybe see which is the bigger fear. Give him reassurance that he's a great kid. Maybe tackle the presentation first with making sure he's adding info that he's really proud of/his greatest interests. Presenting is really challenging for some people and I had a hard time when i was 24! Kiddo is in 6th grade so maybe instead of practicing eye contact he can just practice reading the slides in front of someone. Overall meet him where he's at and also support the importance of completing school tasks❤️ Worst case ask the teacher for alternatives. Some kids need extra support with social anxieties.
Also, No parent is perfect. They key to any relationship is how we recover from our conflicts and saying sorry when we've hurt someone or when we could have made a better choice/approach. And These situations help us learn more about our children and their individual needs. (Very common situations) You're doing great! Keep going and keep building your relationship with your little guy! Best Wishes!
@Christina @Ariana thank you❤️ you both bring up valid points and I appreciate it
I agree with others here. Tackle the presentation first, take it step by step and forget the presenting part until last. One thing that I’ve always told my kids is that anything that gets your heart jumping is good, it means you’re about to do something brave and that will only make you better. I always gave my kids challenges every time they went to school. They would do an act of kindness, an act of initiative, and an act of courage. If they were scared to ask a question front of the class then that’s their sign to do it. I know it’s easier said than done but let him know that he’s capable, heck, maybe bribe him to do it for now?😬. And practice, practice, practice.
*update* I got him talking and laughing and we were half way through with his presentation when he remembered the guidelines and grading scale that shows what the topics are that he is supposed to answer. (He was making up his own topics) now he is literally crying and pissed saying he just waisted all his time. I tryed to stay calm and say "ok so what can we do next time to prevent it from happening again" but he isn't having it and just going on a rant. I don't know how to help him. That just how school is and you need to pay attention and read directions. 😫🤦🏻♀️😫
My comment is not meant to be judgmental or rude but I've learned that kids need to feel like they have a choice. So when you tell him that you weren't asking he feels as though he has no choice in how to handle the situation. I know it's tough and I know you're doing your best. Just try giving him some more options and work with him on it. You doing good Mama. ❤❤ Youre a good mom.