As a single mom how do you feel about dating?

I am a single mama but luckily for me I have been dating an old flame from my past. I didn’t know I was pregnant when we reconcile so when I told him I thought he wasn’t gonna want to continue seeing me but I was wrong. He stayed 😊. So dating for me is good. Anybody else has a story?

Dating sucks. Always has for me. No idea what I'm doing but gotta put myself out there somehow.

Honestly, As a single mom I feel scared to date. I’m afraid I will take away too much time from my son and I’m afraid any man I bring in won’t be able to accept him and my role as his mom.

I’m not afraid to date, I just don’t care to. I’m at a point where I feel like someone will come along when it’s time, but I’m not going to go out looking for something/anyone. 🤷🏼‍♀️

that’s great!! Love to hear itttttt!!! 💕

oof I remember feeling that way. It really does seem to suck sometimes 😩. Feel free to join my dating tips group!

that’s such a valid fear to have, and it also sounds pretty limiting. I’m curious, has a man ever said/shown he wouldn’t be able to accept you/your son? (Other than his father of course)

love that! Same here!

I recently tried to get back out there with this guy I had met. Luckily this time I listened to my inner voice and dipped once the first red flag showed. Honestly I’m prob done dating all together. I’m terrible at picking men and I cannot allow my son to be hurt in the process just for me to find love. I also can’t imagine going through any more hurt after all my failed relationships. I’m tired of rebuilding myself after these terrible men have destroyed me.

I took me two years to feel ready to date

When I was a single mom with my first child I loved it. I dated and had no hold ups I had another single mom friend who we swapped babysitting so neither of us had to pay for a sitter regularly. Then Covid hit and we both stopped dating for a while.

Admittedly I got married quickly and I think some of that was my own loneliness and lack of self control with him loving on my son. Well my husband left me and now I am a single mom to two kids and the idea of dating now terrifies me. The hurt for my kids, the hurt for me, the emotional toll all dating takes it might just be time for me to be done dating at this point in my life.

I can definitely relate to that. What if I told you your mindset is the only thing you need to shift in order to have a better, healthier dating experience?

it’s okay to not know what you’re doing. Most of us don’t get a handbook on how to date. If you’re looking for dating tips check out my group!

I’m glad you took as much time as you needed to become ready. That can be hard sometimes!!

ugh that sucks that he did that to you!! A lot of people don’t realize how traumatic it can be to become a single mom (whether it’s the first time or the fifth time that it feels traumatic). It’s okay to do whatever you need to do to heal. Whether dating is on that list or not.

I would be a bit skeptical lol. But please explain further.

you’re right on the edge of knowing your worth, but being exasperated by the dating process. I’ve been there before and all it took was a change in my mindset for dating to not SUCK 😂. When you go into dating with a fear based mindset the losses hurrrtttt and reinforce your fear based mindset. But when you go in with a love based mindset the losses don’t really hurt, in fact they’re kinda funny sometimes. It allows you to enjoy dating. I’ve got a quiz that can help you learn more about your specific mindset right here https://circle.healedlikekintsugi.com/mindset-block-quiz