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Hello everyone! I am looking to give and receive support. I was diagnosed with IDC in May of 2021. I was only supposed to have surgery to remove it (partial mastectomy) and radiation. As it would turn out, there were 2 types of cancer within the same tumor. One was hr & pr positive and her2 negative, the other was her2 positive and hr & pr negative. So I've now gone through chemo and radiation, and had a radical hysterectomy. I'm currently on HT for the next 5 years. I really struggled with losing my hair, and now that it's growing back I'm becoming impatient! I just want to look normal again! During my journey, I've lost my friends and family. I think they don't know how to talk to or act around me. My relationship with my fiance is also in crisis. On top of all of that, I'm now in a financial crisis because I have not been able to work. My life is a hot mess right now! But I am very grateful to be alive. Does anyone have a similar story, or is able to shed some light?
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I am so sorry that you are going through all this 😭 I was diagnosed with TNBC in October 2021. I have also lost contact with some friends and family along the way and while it sucks in the short term, I know it will be good in the long term. We are literally fighting for our lives so I definitely don't have enough energy to have to fight with people on how to treat me or support me. It feels insurmountable now but things will get a little lighter 💙 if you want to talk or vent more send me a message 🥰🎀

I know how you feel I had chemo and then radiation my hair started growing back and I sometimes get impatient too

Hi Tonya. I had idc back in 2017 and recovered fully, was still on ht for a couple years, then I moved and stopped receiving treatment and got pregnant. The pregnancy made the cancer come back in my bones and caused my spine to fracture in 4 places. My reoccurrence diagnosis was Aug 2021 and I've been back on ht and chemo pills since and my hair started thinning and thinning until I had to cut it down really short. So I'm there with you. My relationship is ok but I do struggle with guilt A LOT. I feel like I just want him to go so he can be free and not deal with all this. The guilt can be crippling sometimes

Omg Nella I sometimes feel the same wanting him to go and be free of all this have a normal happy life the one I would want to give him.

Right. Like you love them so much you just want whats best for them and you feel like staying with you isn't what's best 😔

@Nella yeah for me it’s been a year of chemo radiation and surgery and every time I see his tired face or how disappointed he gets when we get bad news it hurts me and I wish I could just set him free from all of it and for him to go find happiness

Hello, I just finished radiotherapy after 2 surgeries (partial mastectomy) in the spring and chemo this summer. Breast cancer too, 'only' her2+...I haven't started HT yet but I'm very worried by the side effects to come 🥴 I've recognised in your post many feelings I'm having right now (impatience to feel 'normal' again) I've kept most of my hair thanks to the cold caps but I've been very surprised to lose all my lashes and eyebrows AFTER chemo ended! I'm lucky to have a great family and in-laws, it's helped me a lot. Great hubby too, but I'm afraid he'll soon get tired of the caregiver role... Wish you all the best 💕

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