Fertility pain

Same 😫 I actually can’t go to baby showers anymore. I’ve been making excuses. Not because I’m not happy for them but because of the pain I feel. Xxx

Feeling exactly the same, it’s the hardest most painful feeling. Being genuinely happy for them but feeling this jealous guilty feeling inside like why can’t it be me. We got this, stay strong and praying it’s our turn soon 🤞🏼x

I felt the same, it took 3 years and 3 miscarriages to finally get my boy, I used to avoid baby showers etc send a gift or congratulations message and leave it at that, for your own mental Heath don’t torture yourself by attending an event that will upset you, you have to be selfish and think about yourself and yourself only, I wish you luck in your ttc journey- stay positive xxx

It’s not easy at all. It took me 3 years of fertility treatment to finally fall pregnant while watching my friends have babies, then 2nd babies and everyone constantly asking oh when will u have one, or it’ll be ur turn next eh. Try and find someone to confide in, and talk it though with or come on here and vent, talk to others in similar positions. It seems like it just happens to everyone else when ur trying hard, but honestly it’s not that simple for lots of people…all I can say is hang in there…good luck…hopefully it’ll happen soon…keep ur chin up 🤞🥰

It is mentally drainig and staining going through this journey.
Ive had so many dark times its unreal so i feel your pain. Those moments when you visit a new baby and hold in those tears or go to the bathroom and cry, dry your tears and pretend youre okay.
Its really shitty
I found talking to someone who is having a similar journey really helped me.

Im here if you want to talk hun x

How your feeling is completely normal. For years I still hurt myself by forcing myself to baby showers etc. But in the last year or so especially after some life altering incidents i realised I needed to protect me. True friends will understandable and respect that you are happy but also hurting. I spoke with my friends explained I was there but some days would struggle told them not to leave me out but also not be annoyed if I couldn't come. Or if took a day or two to reply to a scan pic etc. Every body is different but I found being honest was the best thing and proved to me how amazing and real my friends were. Sending love as i know how hard this journey is 💕

You aren’t a horrible person, it’s normal 🤍 I find setting boundaries helpful, so I don’t do baby showers, and try and avoid big social situations with babies in where flippant comments may be made. Friends with babies know my situation and don’t sent photos of babies unless I ask, and I mute them on socials (you can look if you’re in the right headspace but photos don’t creep up on you). I’m 3.5 years in with 2 miscarriages. Sending 🤍🤍

It really sucks , I feel the same darling

We're been trying for 2.5 years. I set boundaries. I stopped talking with some of my friends because they didn't want to understand our reality and they kept talking babies and gives us bad advices like "it's because you think so much about it".

Some of our friends understand and give us space.

I mute some people and I limit my time on social media and try to limit "triggers".

Every time it literally feels like a stab in the heart so if you find a way to deal with that pain, I'd be very interested to know as I haven't managed so far.. 😔